Future Husbands: Your Future Wife Does Not Belong to You

June 13, 2013 By 22 Comments
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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons So, I keep swearing to myself that I won’t keep writing reactionary posts. I do. I really do. I make all these beautiful promises about keeping my head down, not getting involved when someone says something unintelligent . . .

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Quoting Quiverfull: Biblical Character?

June 13, 2013 By 12 Comments
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by Jeff Owens of Bible Believer Net – The Attributes of a Wife Who Possesses Character 1. A wife with character will be in submission to her husband,

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Quoting Quiverfull: Stuffing the Ballot Box With Arrows?

June 12, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Colin Campbell in Meat For Men It is foolish of the church to adopt the world’s mindset and limit the arrows in their quivers to one or two per family.

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How I (Barely) Survived Home Schooling

June 11, 2013 By 4 Comments

Cross posted from Homeschoolers Anonymous How I (Barely) Survived Home Schooling: Jonny Scaramanga’s Story Jonny Scaramanga blogs on Accelerated Christian Education and leaving fundamentalism at his blog, Leaving Fundamentalism. He is building a resource on ACE here, and collects survivor stories from students with experience of ACE.

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Quoting Quiverfull: A Guarantee?

June 11, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Johnathan Lindvall from his Bold Parenting Seminar  Even in a case where you know you are right, are you willing to give up

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