Cloistered Fruit (Not) An Open Letter to the Pearls

May 30, 2013 By 10 Comments
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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons So, a friend of mine sent me this post by Michael and Debi Pearl the other day. I encourage you to go read it, just so that you have some context for the following rant and can follow along.

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CTBHHM: Debi Pearl and the Sex-Obsessed Babysitter

May 28, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Libby Anne cross-posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 65-67 Debi starts with a letter from a reader. Dear Pearls,

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New Duggar Book Delayed

May 27, 2013 By 5 Comments
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According to the unofficial Duggar Family blog the new book written by the Duggar daughters, “Growing Up Duggar”,  has had it’s release date pushed back until next year. Here’s what they said. 3rd Duggar Book…Coming in 2014

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Quoting Quiverfull: Real Men Marry?

May 26, 2013 By 23 Comments
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Vaughn Ohlman of Persevero News in “Real Men Marry” Vaughn has been busy making new friends lately with his charm and wit over on Free Thought Blogs “Butterflies and Wheels” Here’s his entire thoughts on men marrying.

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CTBHHM: Else God Will Drive You Mad (Literally)

May 25, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 59-63 Having threatened her readers with all manner of “cruel” consequences for not following God’s marriage plan with its emphasis on wifely submission,

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