Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

News: Evangelical Christians Are Cheating?

The site frequented by people who want to cheat on their spouses, Ashley Madison, has conducted a survey asking their users to identify which religion they are. The results were surprising.Of the people who agreed to take the survey it looks like Evangelical Christians are the ones seeking to break the 7th Commandment in Exodus 20. Surprising information seeing as they are the very ones making all the fuss about modesty, no sex outside of marriage, no sex before marriage. Guess it's another case of 'Do as I say, not as I do.' … [Read more...]

News: Jack Schaap Trying To Squirm Out Of Sentence

Now Jack Schaap is claiming that he was improperly represented by his legal staff at his trial for violation of the Mann Act and sex with an underaged girl. Schaap is claiming his attorneys promised him a sentence of no more than ten years, yet the judge gave him twelve years. It was fully within the rights of the judge to decide the length of the sentence regardless of what prosecutors  or defense team members asked for as a sentence. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

by Jennifer Tritle at and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Neronic or Neurotic?

Kevin Swanson from Generations With Vision Ministries in Right Wing Watch - Kevin Swanson Warns "This Whole Lesbian Whatever Has Turned People Into 'Feces Eaters' "On Monday, “Generations Radio” host Kevin Swanson warned that “this whole lesbian whatever, the Neronic agenda” — the term he regularly uses to describe the LGBT rights movement — has helped plunged society into “dysfunctionality” and turned people into “feces eaters.” “There’s not just divorce: people are eating their own feces, there’s incest everywhere,” Swanson lamented. He said that only churches like his can draw the feces-eaters back to God: “There’s a contrast between the feces-eaters and the church and I think the fe … [Read more...]

News: Highest Divorce Rates?

by Christine Wicker at - Dumbfounded by Divorce A study saying that born-again Christians divorce more often than non-Christians has raised eyebrows, sowed confusion, even brought on a little holy anger. So much, in fact, that the study's author, evangelical George Barna, put out a special letter to "our partners in ministry" trying to calm their fury and let his fellow believers know that he was standing by his stats no matter how distasteful they might be. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Abuser?

from Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview - What Should an Abused Spouse Do?Trigger warning for harmful advice. The posting at Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview has a very triggering photograph of abuse.My suggestion is that you tell your husband that you want to be married to him, and that your goal is reconciliation, but that you are no longer willing to live under abuse. He has a choice to make. He needs to seek help, counseling and accountability through a local … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Loving Your Children Too Much Is Idolatry?

by Det Bowers, pastor at Christ Church of the Carolinas and candidate for Lindsay Graham's Senate seat in - Pastor and GOP Candidate: Women Cause Divorce Because They Love Their Children Too Much Det Bowers, one of six challengers for Graham’s Senatorial seat, said in a sermon at the Christ Church of the Carolinas in a podcast that was removed prior to the June 10 primaries (audio obtained by Politico), “I find that in about 95 percent of broken marriages, though the husband’s the one that ran out on his wife, the wife loves her children more than she does her husband. That is an abominable idolatry.” … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

News: It’s A Crazy Evangelical World Out There!

Lots of interesting stories out there this week following the celebrations of Easter and 4/20 on the same day:From World Magazine.Com: Looks like Teen Mania/Global Expeditions has lost its Garden Valley, Texas property to foreclosure - Management calls the Lourdes Torres lawsuit against Doug Phillips 'an indictment of the Biblical Patriarchy movement and fundamentalism writ large' and explains why this is very bad news for fundamentalism - A Masturbation Lawsuit is Rattling Christian Homeschoolers … [Read more...]