Millipede Part 31 – How Did I Get Here Part 2

October 16, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede The path to Patriarchy is often a convoluted one. Embracing of Patriarchal beliefs is usually not the original intent, but is often the “byproduct” of one’s attempt to embrace a particular religion and/ or ideology. This is important to remember, few women are quick to jump on a bandwagon which promotes a society [...]

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Millipede Part 30 – How Did I Get Here Part 1

October 10, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Millipede How Did I get here? In the Talking Heads song “Once in a lifetime”, lead singer David Byrne echoes this very line. This lyric came to me many a time as I withdrew from Patriarchal fundamentalism. Like a Nautilus Shell rising to the ocean surface, my ascent was marked with the emptying of [...]

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Millipede Part 29

October 4, 2012 By 3 Comments

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Millipede: Part 28

September 27, 2012 By 5 Comments

by Millipede As January gave way to February, I noticed that my ex and I spoke for shorter lengths of time. He seemed busy. I didn’t give it much though, after all we were just friends and nothing more. Then came the day that we had meet at the courthouse to renew our homesteader’s tax [...]

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Millipede: Part 25

September 4, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Millipede Things settled down. My ex took the breakup in stride. We both talked about remaining friends. Now that I didn’t have to be his caretaker/servant/mom (what a strange combo) I felt better. No longer was dread a daily companion, I was free from all of that. We both did the “let’s stay friends” [...]

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