SASBN: Putting an End to the Survivor Wars

March 18, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison Breaking free from the absolute control of a cultic group is incredibly hard – it’s a soul-wrenching experience and in all honesty, none of us walk away unscathed and completely healthy. Spiritual abuse survivors are hurt, traumatized, damaged and often broken. I wish I

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Jack Schaap: Jesus Approves of Adultery?

March 14, 2013 By 5 Comments
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We’re coming up on the sentencing of First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana’s ex-head pastor Jack Schaap. I believe it’s a week from tomorrow. This morning coming out of station RTV6 comes word that the Feds have released some new information on the

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The Purity Conversation – My Two Cents

March 5, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser It appears to have started with a blog post called I am Damaged Goods by Sarah Bessey, in which she says: In the face of our sexually-dysfunctional culture, the Church longs to stand as an outpost of God’s ways of love

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Quoting Quiverfull: Polygamy & Christianity?

February 12, 2013 By 35 Comments
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RedLegBen on his wife’s blog Sarah’s Daughter – January 17, 2013 Men value loyalty. If a wife is loyal, a man will put up with a lot of crap. I have seen men put up with women putting on weight that equals the newer economy cars but remain with their wife because they are loyal.  [...]

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My Wish-I-Hadn’ts

February 6, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser I have, over the course of years that I’ve been a Christian, changed the way I think about a large number of things.  Some of the beliefs I used to hold caused me to treat people (or even myself) in ways that I’m sure now were not what Jesus wanted.  Though I’m [...]

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