Millipede Part 16

July 28, 2012 By 9 Comments
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by Millipede My story continued……. We were free from the world of Patriarchal religion. On a personal level, I began to blossom. I was working outside the home, not only paying the bills, but able to save a little money here and there. Gradually, the trappings of the Patriarchal movement fell away. I stopped wearing [...]

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The Hangover – Adventures in Recovery

July 27, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Calulu It seems in spite of our attempts to be completely free of what we’ve suffered at our old church there are some issues that linger, things we need to deal with. Some of those things involve the relationship between my husband and myself. Hangovers. First allow me to say this is not one [...]

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The Marriage Benefits of Leaving Fundamentalism

July 26, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Latebloomer If I had stayed within the constraints of fundamentalism and Christian Patriarchy, my husband and I would absolutely not be happily married today. Our relationship from the very beginning consisted of many departures from the teachings I grew up with. Each of those departures furthered the development, health, and mutual happiness of our [...]

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Millipede Part 15

July 24, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede I watched in the oncoming month as my husband’s church world came apart. Everything carried a taint of the break; sermons where a new point of view was explained, the fellowship afterwards that was a shadow of its former self. I watched as my husband hung back while our pastor conversed with the [...]

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Revisiting NLQ FAQ: Should There Be a “You” in Quivering?

July 23, 2012 By 5 Comments

What “Deny Yourself” Means – and Doesn’t Mean by Kristen Rosser ~ aka: KR Wordgazer The founders of No Longer Qivering spelled “Quivering” without a “u“ because, as they say, “There is no ‘you’ in Quivering” – there’s no place for self - and they claim this is a bad thing. But Jesus said that a [...]

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