The Emotional and Psychological Consequences of Authoritarian Religion

August 17, 2012 By 12 Comments

by Bruce Gerencser (Cross posted from Bruce’s blog The Way Forward) Over the past few years I have met countless people who have escaped authoritarian religions like the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church movement or your every day garden variety Evangelical church. Authoritarian ecclesiastical structures and authoritarian pastors dominate the lives of those who come [...]

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NLQ FAQ Revisited: Are Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar “Quiverfull”?

August 10, 2012 By 10 Comments

by Hopewell Q: Are the Duggars Quiverfull? By their own admission, Jim-Bob and Michelle were so “grieved” after reading the information pamphlet in a birth control pill package that they turned their fertility over to God. (“About Us” para.1 See also, Dallas News).  That decision has been the reason for their incredible family size of [...]

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Millipede: Part 18

August 6, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede I was willing to let bygones be bygones on the church issue. After all, my husband wasn’t going to force the issue on me. There were other problems appearing on the horizon After such a great start following the bariatric surgery old habits were coming back . At first my husband noticed it [...]

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An Open Letter to Ellie Ponder Woman

August 5, 2012 By 44 Comments
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by Calulu Dear Ellie Ponder Woman– Listen Please! Several days ago I was directed to your blog by a friend and before I knew it I was drawn in. I read every entry, particularly those involving the struggles in your marriage with incidents of domestic violence. You stated that you wanted to glorify God through [...]

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Chick Fil A’s “Appreciation Day” or Spite is Not a Christian Virtue

August 4, 2012 By 22 Comments
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by Sierra This morning, one of the first things I saw on my facebook feed was an explosion of pictures of Chick-fil-A buildings around the country mobbed by evangelical Christians. The lines wrapped around the buildings, out into the parking lot. Fat, shiny SUVs sat cooling off and reminding everybody that their owners were people [...]

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