Bible Spice & Blame Shifting – Adventures in Recovery

March 3, 2013 By 1 Comment
spicegirls

by Calulu “Tell me what you want, what you really, really want..” – The Spice Girls from their song “Wannabe” One of those many things I’ve come to view differently after leaving Patriarchal Fundamentalism is the tendency of those I was around to blame

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Quoting Quiverfull: Sleeping?

March 3, 2013 By 10 Comments

by Nancy Campbell at Above Rubies – February 28, 2013 Tonight I was visiting with my daughter Evangeline. I read some Facebook posts she answered to mothers complaining that they don’t get enough sleep. Isn’t that a constant complaint

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Yes

March 2, 2013 By 6 Comments
Betty, Joan, Peggy

by Samantha Betty, Joan and Peggy from the AMC show “Mad Men” (Editors note: Betty Draper Francis is one of the clearest representations of what the old fashioned complimentarism that patriarchal religions push as the only answer.} The first time I ever heard

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Quoting Quiverfull: Helicopter Parenting?

March 2, 2013 By 5 Comments
Quoting

by Mary Pride in Homeschool World 2008 You might be thinking, “Who cares how a bunch of rich snobs raise their kids?” The reason I brought all this up is that today’s middle-class homeschooling (and other) parents are in the same boat as yesterday’s Harvard parents. They knew that the right

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Shedding the Burqa Part 2

March 1, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Cindy Foster While I waited in the car with the kids, my husband stayed behind and told The Preacher that we would be leaving. This was actually the second time he told him.  The first was the day The Preacher administered ‘The Shunning’

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