Silencing Techniques

May 6, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Kristen Rosser Have you ever had an entire conversation that was not about the thing you wanted to talk about, but about why you needed to stop talking about it? It’s called silencing.

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What About “Women Be Silent in the Church”?

April 22, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser So far on this blog I have addressed nearly every Bible verse used to restrict women or keep them under male authority– except 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 The passage states: The women should keep silent in the churches.

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Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Contribution

March 22, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser This coming week Wine and Marble, Joy in this Journey and Shaney Irene will be hosting a Spiritual Abuse Awareness synchroblog.  Many bloggers will be posting one blog a day for several days, describing their own experiences

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The Purity Conversation – My Two Cents

March 5, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser It appears to have started with a blog post called I am Damaged Goods by Sarah Bessey, in which she says: In the face of our sexually-dysfunctional culture, the Church longs to stand as an outpost of God’s ways of love

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My Wish-I-Hadn’ts

February 6, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser I have, over the course of years that I’ve been a Christian, changed the way I think about a large number of things.  Some of the beliefs I used to hold caused me to treat people (or even myself) in ways that I’m sure now were not what Jesus wanted.  Though I’m [...]

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