Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Can Guys View Attractive Girls As Just Friends?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

“Zimzum of Love” review: 49 – 95, “Dynamic” and “Exclusive”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons One of the reasons why I was initially hesitant to write a review of a book I knew I’d essentially agree with was that I’d move through the book and think ho-hum, or well, duh, or this is just common sense why did we need a book about this. And then I’ll remember– oh, wait, there’s a zillion books out there that actively contradict what I think is “common sense,” so yes, we do need a book like this one. Desperately. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 2 The Wedding

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi gives us a rundown on how she felt about Yetta's wedding. Yetta is interviewed later in the chapter, but Debi gets her two-cents in first - with plenty of incorrect verb tenses, misspelled words, and floating commas. Here is what one wise young woman did for her non-stress (sic), joyful wedding.When I attend (sic) Yetta's wedding, I was struck with its personal style and sheer simplicity. It was clear that everyone, including the bride and groom, was relaxed and having a good time. The people attending will look back to this wedding and think, "Wasn't it wonderful? They looked so happy." … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanking to Bring ‘Peace’ and ‘Stability’ Into the Home?

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by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Spank and Save a Child Editor's note: This entire piece is part disgusting and part hysterical. Mr. Pearl is ranting against all the naysayers who think spanking is abusive towards children, even as there are studies which prove it is. He's also upset that his words are being taken out of context for quotes. Bonus points in the piece for his reference to uneducated 'hillbilly' women.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Anti Spanking Equals Anti Family?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: How exactly is it that trying to teach children that violence is wrong by not spanking them equates societal engineering? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl’s Puberty

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by Michael Pearl from his book "Created To Need A Help Meet" and cross posted from Aletha's blog Yllom Mormon (Molly's Evil Twin)Editor's note: I was going to do another chapter of Nancy Campbell's 'Be Fruitful and Multiply' book today but I seem to have misplaced that dreadful tome. Instead here's what Michael Pearl had to say about his puberty! It's pretty frightening. Aletha is doing a review of his book CTNAHM at her blog, it's right on the money. I need a different graphic for this, something like a dropped and shattered coffee cup because this is pretty bad.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bill Gothard’s Teachings Are in Prisons?

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by Jinger Duggar from the book 'Growing Up Duggar' pages 211 - 212Editor's note: The first time I read these passages I was struck by Jinger's judgmental description of the female inmates faces as having 'lines of grief and bitterness' but after rereading this some months later it feels much more outrageous that the teachings of Bill Gothard and the IBLP are being taught in a tax payer funded facility. Is this just a bunch of humble brag or is it the best thing they could do for the ladies in the jail? Thoughts, dear readers? … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 4 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide  I, Leah, grew up in Texas, the oldest of five home-educated children. I loved to play golf, tennis, and chess. I graduated from the Culinary School of Fort Worth and Thomas Edison State College with a Bachelor's in Business Administration. Whoa! Two people with actual college degrees. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay in Abusive Marriage?

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by Mary Pride from The Way Home as published on Homeschoolers Anonymous - Mary Pride: Don't Divorce Your Drunk, Raging HusbandEditors note: R.L. Stollar is reading this book so you don't have to. It was the original call to women to return home from the workplace to be full time wives and mothers and embrace the theology of Quiverfull before Quiverfull even had a name. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've found two different types of toxic views in reading CP literature. The more common toxicity is "Do this or really bad things will happen to you!" Debi has given us plenty of these examples so far. This chapter is a different type of toxic. This is the "Do this and life will be magical!" toxicity.Personally, I think the second type is more pernicious than the first. With the first, once you've done the forbidden action, you can figure out pretty quickly if the predicted bad outcome happens. The second type, though, is hard to disprove because life isn't always magical. … [Read more...]


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