Chucking College: Achieving Success Without Corruption – Part 0

by Danielle WolfeEditor's note: New review series on Melanie Ellison's book Chucking College. The images are screen caps from the film 'Mean Girls'.Hello. I’ve been an avid reader of this blog for a long time and Suzanne has been kind enough to let me review this book for everyone. However after reading this she may owe me a bottle of wine!I wish I were joking… … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – Part 2 Chapter 12

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuoted text from the book is in blue text.Quoted text from Genevieve (Smith) de Deugd's blog is in maroon text.I love this section!  There are two themes running through the middle of this chapter.Theme one: A pair of highly sheltered very young women have determine what ALL men need in a wife. This theme is a hoot because any person who has been in a satisfying long-term relationship can shoot massive holes in this theme (and believe me, you will be seeing me take aim.) … [Read more...]

Answer to my Critics: My Childhood Opened My Eyes

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Editor's note: Some translations here. Billy Boy G is Bill Gothard, Swine Beads are Michael and Debi Pearl and Ezzo-kimos are followers of Gary Ezzo. Trigger warnings for descriptions of child abuse.Recently, I was accused of only speaking out against Billy Boy G. and his patriarchal ilk because I have a vendetta against my life as a child.  While I do not disagree that half of my childhood was pure torture, I vehemently disagree with that accusation.Here's a summing up of my childhood: … [Read more...]

Introduction to the Review Series – “Lies Women Believe”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragon How to Win Over Depression and Redeeming Love were neck-and-neck in the last poll I did, but since my friend Dani Kelley is doing a review of Redeeming Love, I decided that my next review series would be the runner-up: Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets them Free. In the comments, a lot of you mentioned how toxic this book was for you both personally and in your marriages. I received it as a gift when I was still at Pensacola Christian, and I remember feeling vaguely uneasy about it, although at the time I chalked up that reaction to “being convicted.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Michael Pearl Answers Critics of “To Train Up A Child”

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - It's The Book's FaultEditor's note: And so it ends, with junk science saying that we're all making it worse by eating fat and sugar AND for guilt bonus points, watching television. None of those three things causes the chronic fatigue Michael references. You know what does? Being driven like a mule with a cruel master to do everything, do it fast and do it immediately with no down time, sort of like that honeymoon from hell he put his wife through. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet (Why Men Need Wives)

by Althea cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormon(The purple text is directly quoted from the book - the words of Michael Pearl)pages 21-26In this section, Michael lays out his reasons as to why every man should be married.  Hint: It's because they need a help meet. (shocking, I know)I Needed Her    The reason I chose Deb to be my bride was because I had developed a need for her.  Not sexual at first.  I had possessed a sexual need for thirteen years and knew many girls I felt could satisfy that hunger. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Are “Sexual Immorality” and “Lust” the Same Thing?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - Lust: A Christian Girl's ProblemEditor's note: This entire piece makes me sad because it seems that Evangelical Quiverfull Christianity has made the idea of any thought even slightly romantic or erotic into something sinful and dirty. What an insanely impossible standard that goes against everything in our own biology. Kristen quotes 1 Thessalonians 4:3 to justify never having any thoughts related to the opposite sex "that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor.” yet doesn't seem to realize that 'Sexual immorality' and 'Lust' may not even be the same thing in this passage. What d … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Introductions, Acknowledgements and Michael, the Manly Man

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom MormonEditor's note: Thank you Aletha for sharing this with us! Welcome~Ok. I'm just going to jump right in. "Created to Need a Help Meet" by Michael Pearl. The companion marriage-help book to his wife, Debi's, "Created to Be a Help Meet".  Passages from the book will be in purple, just to make things simpler. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 5 – The Wedding

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows And Kids CollideDebi spends quite a bit of time asking Yetta questions about her wedding.  Since I find going over the details of a wedding of a person I don't know dull, I'm just gonna pick out pertinent questions. Q: Your flowers were great, too.  I liked the fall colors.  They must have cost a lot?A: I have a story about the flowers.  When Kent and I first began to see each other we both started saving money for our wedding and our honeymoon.  Together we decided how much we would spend for each part of the wedding. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet ‘ – What Type of Girl am I?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]