Evangelical Good Christian Men Are So Fragile They Cannot Handle Pushback Of Any Kind?

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by Suzanne cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOver at NLQ in the past few weeks it seems like many of the pieces I'm publishing have to do with not asking for your needs to be met, not disagreeing with your husband's financial decisions or anything else or they will cease to love you or fall victim to the devil.I really don't get that. Especially when it comes to spending money, major and minor purchases. Debi Pearl has stated in her book "Created To Be His Help Meet" that you should never ever under any circumstance voice an opinion on the spending of family funds. According to her the question below is one no wife should ever ask her husband.... 1. Do you feel comfortable … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201—202We’re in Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” and not surprisingly, we’re discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script—though not in good ways.A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godlines … [Read more...]

“Be a Good Obeying Girl”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismWhen I was a child and my mother would leave me at a friend’s house or with a sitter, there was one thing she always said right before she left.“Be a good obeying girl.” Of every virtue a child could have, the one my mother prized above all else wasobedience. My mother was influenced by Michael Pearl’s book, To Train Up a Child, which stipulated that obedience should be immediate and without question—and with a smile. Partly I think my mother was attracted to the Pearls’ childrearing teachings because raising twelve children is no easy task, and training children to absolute obedience made things easier for her.For a … [Read more...]

Apostate: Chapters 1 and 2

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground This series reviews Kevin Swanson’s book Apostate. I will try to have one review out a weekend. See also my discussion of the Preface and Chapter 3. Kevin Swanson’s book Apostate devotes a separate chapter to different men that he believes destroyed the Christian west. However, before he discusses those men, he spends two chapters introducing the material. What initially struck me is that he repeatedly (as in dozens of times) refers to those who disagree with him as humanists without ever defining the word humanist or humanism. Instead of defining his term, Swanson spends time to mock humanists for Harry Potter, homosexuality, vampir … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 5

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAh, yes.  The portion of the chapter where Debi poisons the well.  Oddly enough, she seems conflicted during this section.  Debi seems torn between toeing the party line about "Your husband is always right!" and admitting that mothers may know what is best - especially when mom is trying to extricate her daughter from an abusive husband."Mama Says He's a DudIf your father is a gentle, kind man, and if your mother has always been ... how shall we say it ... a little dominant, then what I am about to teach you might save your future marriage. " By crushing you.  And your mom.   … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Finding a “Decent” Woman

The sad thing is that the Debis of this world would see this pretty floral skirt as 'immodest' because it shows the knees.

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 199—201This week we start Debi’s chapter on being “chaste.” Remember, she’s going through the proscriptions in Titus 2: 4—5. Last week we finished her chapter on being “discreet.” Let’s get started! … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sex, Charles and Lesbians

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 196This week we continue with Debi’s questions not to ask your husband.7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication. Something deep inside him is so dissatisfied, so frustrated that she responds intimately only when she feels right about it. It speaks nothing of his manhood. His soul is sick all the way to its core. He falls asleep fantasizing about the woman he met in the store today. God, help his filthy soul.Translation: If you tell you don’t sexually satisfy your hus … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 4

King Clovis I using the royal touch at his coronation to heal a man of scrofula.

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide This is the second to last "King" post - and the last one that talks directly about the "King's" lunacy."Kings usually like fine meals served on time and in good order.  If you are an especially fine cook, your gifts will be greatly appreciated.  A Kingly Man is not one to help out in the kitchen."Translation: Your husband, who never lifts a finger, is free to complain about your crappy cooking, your failure to plate everything like a restaurant , and/or your inability to have dinner ready when HE wants it."Kings like to talk about their plans, ideas, and unfinished projects.  They will be very objective, very unem … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideSo much toxicity in FOUR paragraphs.   "A good King sees the bigger picture and strives to help the greatest number, even if it costs him his life and the lives of those he loves."  Remember in the Gospel where Jesus throws Peter in front of the guards who came to arrest him?  Or the time Jesus made it out of the temple after challenging the money-changers by blaming his brothers? Don't remember those?  Me either.  That's because Jesus NEVER sacrificed the lives of those he loved. Let's compare Debi's take with some quotes from the Catechism of the Catholic Church: … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Can’t Take Criticism (Ever)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 194—195This intro matter confuses me a bit.The Skinny Swine Lack of Judgement “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1).  “A wise woman doesn’t attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquiries concerning his will.”  The skinny woman who inspired this next list of questions doubtless saw herself as a kind person, wonderful mother, and first-rate wife, yet she was tearing down her house one question at a time.I do not get the swine bit, or the skinny bit. Debi is about to la … [Read more...]


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