CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236—237I’ll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “He will be your head, and you will follow him”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Need His Help Meet, pp. 229—231We now begin Debi’s chapter on being obedient to one’s husband. In this first section, Debi mainly just quotes Bible verses, and then interprets them for her readers. In this post I’ll touch on some issues of interpretation, but I’ll also bring out some other pieces that come up, including a passage that sheds light on Debi’s view of the role of daughters, and more on Michael’s view of church authority. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Are You a Dumb Cluck?

It's demeaning to call another person a 'dumb cluck' and not sure it's ever appropriate to call an animal that either! Debi Pearl sometimes uses put downs no one should use in polite society

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 217—219Dear Mrs. Pearl, I am so tired and discouraged. I feel as though my husband just doesn’t love me or care for his family as he should. The house is falling apart. The yard is full of trash. The last straw is that the sink is leaking so badly that the floor under the sink always stays wet. He is quick to help anyone who calls for help, but to get anything done around here is impossible. Last night we had a big fight because of the screen door. It has a big hole in it that I asked him to fix months ago, and it is still not fixed. Then some old lady called and needed her car started, and h … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Your Husband Can’t Cover For You

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 216—217In this section, we see the alternative to the “good woman” Debi outlined in her three examples last week. In that passage she spoke of men who are lazy, or bad fathers, or dishonest, and informed women who may be wives of these men that it is their duty to cover for their husbands’ faults and make them appear faultless to the world. This week she speaks of women who are spendthrifts, or who leave their children with sitters, or who take advantage of others’ time and resources (her equivalent of each category for males). … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wives, Cover For Your Husband!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 214—215This week we begin Debi’s chapter on being “Good,” which is the next character trait listed in Titus :4-5. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Get Off The Internet!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 211—222I am now armed with a fresh copy of Created To Be His Help Meet and ready to resume my reviews. For reasons completely unknown to me, my previous copy never reappeared. I have utterly no idea where it is. But lest my readers worry, I bought my fresh copy used.Leaving Home by Phone, E-mail, and Chat Rooms “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (I Timothy 5:14). God’s will for a young woman, according to the verse above, is that she guide the house and provide no occasion to bring re … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Answering Objections?

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by Debi Pearl in No Greater Joy Magazine -  Created to Be His Help Meet 10th Anniversary EditionDebi Pearl is apparently adding a couple of new chapters to CTBHHM and has tweaked the original. Anyone here at NLQ care to do a side by side comparison of the two to see exactly how much has changed? … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: God or Husband—Whom Do I Obey?

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 210—211Debi just finished telling her readers that God’s desire is for mothers to be keepers in the home, and that if they leave their children with others (even for as little as ten minutes) their children could end up molested or worse. She went so far as to say that not being a stay at home mother was to commit blasphemy against God. Now she addresses an important question, because she has put her readers in a bit of a dilemma.Whom Do I Obey?  What if your husband tells you to go to work and leave your children at day care or with a baby-sitter, in conflict with God’s command for you t … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: David’ Sin Was All Bathsheba’s Fault

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, p. 207I have written so often about the tendency of what I call “the purity culture” to blame women for men’s sexual actions. Even rape is too often blamed on the woman doing something to deserve it, inciting his lust with her clothing or her actions. Modesty is preached as the solution, and women are told to cover up. Women become responsible for men’s sexual actions. In this, the last section of Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” we see this idea taken to a horrific extreme. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Bad Bob

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 204—207Alright, story time! I’ve been waiting for this section for ages because . . . well.If you’re new here, you’ve stumbled upon my page by page review of Debi Pearl’s how to be a good wife manual Created To Be His Help Meet. Debi Pearl and her husband Michael run No Greater Joy Ministries, a fundamentalist ministry popular among conservative Christian homeschoolers. Michael is also the author of To Train Up A Child, a child rearing manual which I have also been reviewing page by page.For me, Bad Bob has long served as the passage that best incapsulates how off base and frankly toxi … [Read more...]


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