CTBHHM: Wives, Cover For Your Husband!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 214—215This week we begin Debi’s chapter on being “Good,” which is the next character trait listed in Titus :4-5. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Get Off The Internet!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 211—222I am now armed with a fresh copy of Created To Be His Help Meet and ready to resume my reviews. For reasons completely unknown to me, my previous copy never reappeared. I have utterly no idea where it is. But lest my readers worry, I bought my fresh copy used.Leaving Home by Phone, E-mail, and Chat Rooms “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (I Timothy 5:14). God’s will for a young woman, according to the verse above, is that she guide the house and provide no occasion to bring re … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Answering Objections?

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by Debi Pearl in No Greater Joy Magazine -  Created to Be His Help Meet 10th Anniversary EditionDebi Pearl is apparently adding a couple of new chapters to CTBHHM and has tweaked the original. Anyone here at NLQ care to do a side by side comparison of the two to see exactly how much has changed? … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: God or Husband—Whom Do I Obey?

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 210—211Debi just finished telling her readers that God’s desire is for mothers to be keepers in the home, and that if they leave their children with others (even for as little as ten minutes) their children could end up molested or worse. She went so far as to say that not being a stay at home mother was to commit blasphemy against God. Now she addresses an important question, because she has put her readers in a bit of a dilemma.Whom Do I Obey?  What if your husband tells you to go to work and leave your children at day care or with a baby-sitter, in conflict with God’s command for you t … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: David’ Sin Was All Bathsheba’s Fault

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, p. 207I have written so often about the tendency of what I call “the purity culture” to blame women for men’s sexual actions. Even rape is too often blamed on the woman doing something to deserve it, inciting his lust with her clothing or her actions. Modesty is preached as the solution, and women are told to cover up. Women become responsible for men’s sexual actions. In this, the last section of Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” we see this idea taken to a horrific extreme. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Bad Bob

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 204—207Alright, story time! I’ve been waiting for this section for ages because . . . well.If you’re new here, you’ve stumbled upon my page by page review of Debi Pearl’s how to be a good wife manual Created To Be His Help Meet. Debi Pearl and her husband Michael run No Greater Joy Ministries, a fundamentalist ministry popular among conservative Christian homeschoolers. Michael is also the author of To Train Up A Child, a child rearing manual which I have also been reviewing page by page.For me, Bad Bob has long served as the passage that best incapsulates how off base and frankly toxi … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Catch 22

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 202—204We’re still in the section on modesty, and here we get to the question of pants, which is a heated topic in so many fundamentalist circles. Once we’re through that, we’ll get a taste of what Debi thinks of fat* women, and in getting said taste we’ll touch on an important Catch-22 women face in the purity culture Debi promotes.What About Pants?  We cannot leave this subject without dealing with an issue that comes up over and over again. Is it permissible for a woman to wear pants? Deuteronomy 22:5 is cited as a prohibition against a woman wearing pants: “The woman shall not wear th … [Read more...]

Evangelical Good Christian Men Are So Fragile They Cannot Handle Pushback Of Any Kind?

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by Suzanne cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOver at NLQ in the past few weeks it seems like many of the pieces I'm publishing have to do with not asking for your needs to be met, not disagreeing with your husband's financial decisions or anything else or they will cease to love you or fall victim to the devil.I really don't get that. Especially when it comes to spending money, major and minor purchases. Debi Pearl has stated in her book "Created To Be His Help Meet" that you should never ever under any circumstance voice an opinion on the spending of family funds. According to her the question below is one no wife should ever ask her husband.... 1. Do you feel comfortable … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201—202We’re in Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” and not surprisingly, we’re discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script—though not in good ways.A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godlines … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Finding a “Decent” Woman

The sad thing is that the Debis of this world would see this pretty floral skirt as 'immodest' because it shows the knees.

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 199—201This week we start Debi’s chapter on being “chaste.” Remember, she’s going through the proscriptions in Titus 2: 4—5. Last week we finished her chapter on being “discreet.” Let’s get started! … [Read more...]


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