CTBHHM: The Catch 22

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 202—204We’re still in the section on modesty, and here we get to the question of pants, which is a heated topic in so many fundamentalist circles. Once we’re through that, we’ll get a taste of what Debi thinks of fat* women, and in getting said taste we’ll touch on an important Catch-22 women face in the purity culture Debi promotes.What About Pants?  We cannot leave this subject without dealing with an issue that comes up over and over again. Is it permissible for a woman to wear pants? Deuteronomy 22:5 is cited as a prohibition against a woman wearing pants: “The woman shall not wear th … [Read more...]

Evangelical Good Christian Men Are So Fragile They Cannot Handle Pushback Of Any Kind?

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by Suzanne cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOver at NLQ in the past few weeks it seems like many of the pieces I'm publishing have to do with not asking for your needs to be met, not disagreeing with your husband's financial decisions or anything else or they will cease to love you or fall victim to the devil.I really don't get that. Especially when it comes to spending money, major and minor purchases. Debi Pearl has stated in her book "Created To Be His Help Meet" that you should never ever under any circumstance voice an opinion on the spending of family funds. According to her the question below is one no wife should ever ask her husband.... 1. Do you feel comfortable … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201—202We’re in Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” and not surprisingly, we’re discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script—though not in good ways.A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godlines … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Finding a “Decent” Woman

The sad thing is that the Debis of this world would see this pretty floral skirt as 'immodest' because it shows the knees.

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 199—201This week we start Debi’s chapter on being “chaste.” Remember, she’s going through the proscriptions in Titus 2: 4—5. Last week we finished her chapter on being “discreet.” Let’s get started! … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sex, Charles and Lesbians

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 196This week we continue with Debi’s questions not to ask your husband.7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication. Something deep inside him is so dissatisfied, so frustrated that she responds intimately only when she feels right about it. It speaks nothing of his manhood. His soul is sick all the way to its core. He falls asleep fantasizing about the woman he met in the store today. God, help his filthy soul.Translation: If you tell you don’t sexually satisfy your hus … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Can’t Take Criticism (Ever)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 194—195This intro matter confuses me a bit.The Skinny Swine Lack of Judgement “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1).  “A wise woman doesn’t attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquiries concerning his will.”  The skinny woman who inspired this next list of questions doubtless saw herself as a kind person, wonderful mother, and first-rate wife, yet she was tearing down her house one question at a time.I do not get the swine bit, or the skinny bit. Debi is about to la … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi Speaks on Ruth’s Sex Life (and a Stove)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 192—194In this section we get a letter from a woman named Ruth, and Debi’s response to it. Remember that we are in the section on being “discreet,” so presumably this relates (somehow). … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sexually Abused Children as Broken, Diseased

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet,  pp. 185—186This week we get to read the end of Debi’s chapter on loving one’s children. The HallThere is no permanent cure for genital herpes and many other forms of STDs. Yet one in five young teens in the USA has a sexually transmitted disease. Many statistics also tell us that one in four little girls will be sexually “messed with” by the time they are four years old. One in four little boys will be the victims of homosexual abuse. Our children are in grave danger in today’s world, not only from emotional trauma, but also from many of these diseases. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Daycare is Adopting Your Kid Out

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 184—185We are still in Debi’s chapter on loving one’s children. Last week we got to the first part of the chapter that actually contained some actually good advice. This had to do with the importance of a mother working one on one with her children, and teaching them little things all through the day—what goes in soup, how to sound words out, and how to fold laundry. I really did like that Debi said a mother should work directly with an individual child even in a large family, though I felt she didn’t follow that up with helpful how-tos and risked leaving overwhelmed mothers of large families … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Esther and Her Mother

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 182—183We’re still in the chapter on loving your children. Remember, Debi has told women to love their children by loving their husbands, and to love their children by not concentrating too much on loving Jesus. Now, for the first time, we actually turn to loving the children themselves. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). … [Read more...]


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