CTBHHM: In Which a Woman Dares to Assert Agency

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 138-139In this section, Debi tells a story. A few years ago, I attended a meeting with my husband where a group of leading men were discussing grave matters, trying to come to a conclusion as to what course of action they should take. The men sat in a circle, with their wives sitting beside or right behind them. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Surrendering Your Autonomy to Another

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 136—37Sometimes Debi misinterprets Bible passages, and badly. More often, though, she simply adds things, brazenly, and without even offering any of her twisted scriptures to back them up. This wouldn’t be such a problem except that evangelicals and fundamentalists make a big deal of adhering to the Bible and the Bible alone, condemning mainline Christians for adding to the Bible. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Earning Your Abuser’s Trust

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism***trigger warning for domestic violence***This section is called “Earning His Trust,” and calling it that is messed up on about three million levels, as we shall see. It is the story of a young woman named Sunny. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Only Ever Think Good

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 128-132In this section Debi goes into more depth about just what “reverencing” one’s husband actually looks like in practice. Her focus in this section is on thought patterns—basically, she argues that women should brainwash themselves into only ever thinking good of their husbands. Debi starts by outlining what she argues is a common problem for her intended audience: … [Read more...]

How Doug Phillips Wreaked Havoc On My Family

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers AnonymousMy parents homeschooled me K-12, and during those years they fell under the influence of several Christian leaders who spread toxic dogma and find their following within the Christian homeschool movement. My parents never followed Gothard, but they did follow both Michael Pearl and Doug Phillips. I’ve … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The (Proxy) Bride of (an Abusive) Christ

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 124-127 A wise woman understands that her husband’s need to be honored is not based on his performance, but on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusaism. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God’s will for her life. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Debi Has Scientific Proof

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 221-222Debi starts this section with these reassurances: So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, brow-beaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not put women back into the Stone Age, nor will it turn us into a bunch of Muslim-like women who stay covered in black, sweaty bourkhas. If you knew me (and by the time you finish reading this … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Women Can Be Effective Leaders – So What?

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 119-121Some of you have noted that Debi’s getting a bit repetitive. In future posts I’m going to try to move more quickly through parts where Debi’s simply restating what she’s already said. In this section, though, Debi says something I don’t think she’s said before. God expresses a clear and sure mandate when he tells us: “But I suffer not [do not allow] a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, [that includes your pastor] but to be in silence.” (I Timothy 2:12).I call your attention back to the argument in a letter we read in chapter 5. [I reviewed that section in this post … [Read more...]

(Not) An Open Letter to the Pearls

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons and Homeschoolers AnonymousSamantha Field blogs at Defeating the Dragons, and she was recently featured in a Christianity Today story entitled, “Finding Faith After Spiritual Indoctrination.” This piece was originally published on her own blog, and is reprinted with her permission. Also by Samantha on HA: “We Had To Be So Much More Amazing” and “The Supposed Myth of Teenaged Adolescence.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Girl’s “List”?

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Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy in a video about preparing for marriage - A Girl's List - Preparing To Be A Helpmeet. … [Read more...]


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