Quoting Quiverfull: Internet/Phone Accountability To Keep Hearts ‘Pure’?

by Jana, Jill, Jessa, and Jinger Duggar from their book "Growing Up Duggar" - page 152Doesn't say if this is only for the kids or also for the young adults in the household. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 65 – 85, ‘The Respectful Wife’

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons With a chapter title like that, you just know how much I loved it. I probably should have expected this chapter to be more infuriating than the one devoted to men, but I didn’t. My marginalia has a lot more “WTF” and “BS” (which stands for both bullshitand benevolent sexism; nice how that one worked out) than the last chapter did– and I wish I could talk about a lot more than I have the space for. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Birth Control & Pregnancy – Part 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi marches out some new oddities today. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Knowledge – Tree Frogs and Autism

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to delve into Debi's understanding of medicine and science in general. This chapter is jumps around from topic to topic so I have taken the liberty of combining all of the random paragraphs on medical ideas into a series of posts. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Debi’s Massive Overreaction

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThis story from Debi's life is horrible...just horrible.   "The Death AngelMost people that hear this story think it was just my imagination playing tricks on me.  It happened more than thirty-five years ago.  I was just a young wife when the Death Angel visited, but I am convinced today, as I was then, that this truly happened just as I relate it." Personally, I think she had a panic attack. "I lived in a small community of mostly young military couples.  All of the families were expecting, or had a baby or two already.  The girl directly across the street was nineteen years old and was married to a soldier of the same age wh … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Women – Part 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi is about to begin another "pick a verse - any verse!" Bible interpretation of why women should be submissive to men. "The Hebrew word Ayzer, from which the English words help meet come, mean one who helps.  Woman was created to be a helper who was suited to meet the man's needs, to fill in between the lines.  The female is a softer image, one step removed from the original.  I am his curves.  I am his sweetness, thoughtfulness, compassion, sensitivity and so on. " Again, I feel bad that Debi has known so few men that she honestly believes that men cannot be thoughtful, sweet, sensitive or compassionate.  The vast majority of … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Women – Part 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe've finished the three types of women, so the chapter should end now....right? Nope.  … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Woman Part 4

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideNow, Debi moves on to the "Go-to Gal" which is supposed to be the female version of the King. "The Go-to GalMy son's wife, Zephyr, is a Go-to Gal, similar to the King type.  That is not to say she is overtly bossy; she knows her place as a wife.  But she is strong, capable, and gives a sense of taking care of the greater number of people.  Go-to Gals ooze with confidence, have strong opinions, and do well organizing people.  These types often have a queenly presence.  Beware: Girls that are dominant can easily become Grabbers." Where does Debi's obsession with serving the "greater number" of people come from?  I find that a str … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 19-41 “Friends With Benefits”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons When I was in graduate school, one of the books I had to read was The Power of Words and the Wonder of God, and one of the chapters was written by Mark Driscoll– unsurprisingly, it was on swearing. I didn’t know anything about Mark Driscoll at the time, but I figured out quick that he was a pretty big fan of Martin Luther. As I’ve come to know more about Mark, that he sees himself as a “Martin Luther 2.0″ should surprise absolutely no one, and that comes across pretty clearly in this chapter. The first five pages are dedicated to Martin Luther’s marriage to Katherine von Bora, and Mark cannot even begin to contain his enthusi … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Small Mercies?

by Michael Pearl from World Magazine - To Train Up A Pharisee  “I have never advocated—either in private, public speaking, or in writing—withholding food from a child, forcing children to sleep on the floor or outside, constraining them in blankets (or by any other means), spanking children on their feet, faces, or backs, locking them in small rooms or tight containers, or forcing them to stay outside in cold weather.” … [Read more...]