Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Knowledge – Tree Frogs and Autism

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to delve into Debi's understanding of medicine and science in general. This chapter is jumps around from topic to topic so I have taken the liberty of combining all of the random paragraphs on medical ideas into a series of posts. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Debi’s Massive Overreaction

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThis story from Debi's life is horrible...just horrible.   "The Death AngelMost people that hear this story think it was just my imagination playing tricks on me.  It happened more than thirty-five years ago.  I was just a young wife when the Death Angel visited, but I am convinced today, as I was then, that this truly happened just as I relate it." Personally, I think she had a panic attack. "I lived in a small community of mostly young military couples.  All of the families were expecting, or had a baby or two already.  The girl directly across the street was nineteen years old and was married to a soldier of the same age wh … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Women – Part 6

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi is about to begin another "pick a verse - any verse!" Bible interpretation of why women should be submissive to men. "The Hebrew word Ayzer, from which the English words help meet come, mean one who helps.  Woman was created to be a helper who was suited to meet the man's needs, to fill in between the lines.  The female is a softer image, one step removed from the original.  I am his curves.  I am his sweetness, thoughtfulness, compassion, sensitivity and so on. " Again, I feel bad that Debi has known so few men that she honestly believes that men cannot be thoughtful, sweet, sensitive or compassionate.  The vast majority of … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Women – Part 5

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe've finished the three types of women, so the chapter should end now....right? Nope.  … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Three Types of Woman Part 4

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideNow, Debi moves on to the "Go-to Gal" which is supposed to be the female version of the King. "The Go-to GalMy son's wife, Zephyr, is a Go-to Gal, similar to the King type.  That is not to say she is overtly bossy; she knows her place as a wife.  But she is strong, capable, and gives a sense of taking care of the greater number of people.  Go-to Gals ooze with confidence, have strong opinions, and do well organizing people.  These types often have a queenly presence.  Beware: Girls that are dominant can easily become Grabbers." Where does Debi's obsession with serving the "greater number" of people come from?  I find that a str … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236—237I’ll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “He will be your head, and you will follow him”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Need His Help Meet, pp. 229—231We now begin Debi’s chapter on being obedient to one’s husband. In this first section, Debi mainly just quotes Bible verses, and then interprets them for her readers. In this post I’ll touch on some issues of interpretation, but I’ll also bring out some other pieces that come up, including a passage that sheds light on Debi’s view of the role of daughters, and more on Michael’s view of church authority. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 19-41 “Friends With Benefits”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons When I was in graduate school, one of the books I had to read was The Power of Words and the Wonder of God, and one of the chapters was written by Mark Driscoll– unsurprisingly, it was on swearing. I didn’t know anything about Mark Driscoll at the time, but I figured out quick that he was a pretty big fan of Martin Luther. As I’ve come to know more about Mark, that he sees himself as a “Martin Luther 2.0″ should surprise absolutely no one, and that comes across pretty clearly in this chapter. The first five pages are dedicated to Martin Luther’s marriage to Katherine von Bora, and Mark cannot even begin to contain his enthusi … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Small Mercies?

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by Michael Pearl from World Magazine - To Train Up A Pharisee  “I have never advocated—either in private, public speaking, or in writing—withholding food from a child, forcing children to sleep on the floor or outside, constraining them in blankets (or by any other means), spanking children on their feet, faces, or backs, locking them in small rooms or tight containers, or forcing them to stay outside in cold weather.” … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Are You a Dumb Cluck?

It's demeaning to call another person a 'dumb cluck' and not sure it's ever appropriate to call an animal that either! Debi Pearl sometimes uses put downs no one should use in polite society

by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 217—219Dear Mrs. Pearl, I am so tired and discouraged. I feel as though my husband just doesn’t love me or care for his family as he should. The house is falling apart. The yard is full of trash. The last straw is that the sink is leaking so badly that the floor under the sink always stays wet. He is quick to help anyone who calls for help, but to get anything done around here is impossible. Last night we had a big fight because of the screen door. It has a big hole in it that I asked him to fix months ago, and it is still not fixed. Then some old lady called and needed her car started, and h … [Read more...]


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