Quoting Quiverfull: Anger is Always Wrong?

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One of the ongoing themes throughout the Duggar girls book is that anger is dangerous and to be avoided at all costs.  Keep in control even when starting to experience anger (which they seem to think no one has the right to actually be angry) is paramount. They talk about Michelle whispering when getting angry and how you should make sure any guy you're in courtship with doesn't get angry easy.Makes me wonder what they thought of Jesus throwing the money changers out of the temple. Did they think Jesus was politely tiptoeing around saying, 'Sorry, old chap, but you can't do that here. sorry I'm knocking your stuff around. Have a nice day!' … [Read more...]

Happy 4th of July: Why We All Need To Get Out and Vote: Quoting Quiverfull

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Since it's the 4th and we're all busy grilling or whatever today's posting is an open thread to talk about whatever you'd like and will be today's only post. Enjoy the day and be truly terrified by the political vision of the Duggar Family. Good reason to go out and vote in every election. Imagine a country run only by the morals of Bill Gothard and the Duggars.by the Duggar girls pages 181 through 182 from "Growing Up Duggar" Some people think Christians should stay out of the political arena, but we strongly disagree. Our family believes faith and politics should go hand in hand, and we've seen countless examples of how that happens. For example, earlier this year, the Arkansas … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideLast time, I gathered up all of the general descriptions of Prophet / Visionary Men that Debi sprinkled through Chapter 3.  Now, we get to move on to the specific examples of what life with a Prophet/Visionary Man is like according to Debi."The Prophet type will make a great boyfriend because he will focus totally on his sweetie.  He will be very romantic, giving you flowers and gifts.  If you catch the heart of a Prophet you will be his consuming passion, his greatest challenge, his dream come true. "In other words, the Prophet is in love with being in love with you.  That's not a great foundation for marriage. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: All Syncopated Rhythm Glorifies the Devil?

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by the Duggar girls on pages 162-163 of their book "Growing Up Duggar" Clearly, if a song's lyrics are glorifying sensuality, immorality, disrespect, violence, suicide, or the use of drugs and alcohol, we have good reason to avoid it. These things are often spoken of or hinted at in the lines of country music, but if we were to point to one genre, it would be rock 'n' roll and its variations such as hard rock and heavy metal. We avoid these types of music altogether. Since its beginnings in the 1950s, this music's main goal and purpose have been to promote every one of the issues we want to avoid. A heavy backbeat and words being sung in a breathy and sensual voice--- and even the style of … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet Part 2

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn the next three chapters, I am covering portions of the chapter out of order because the information in each chapter is written in a chaotic style that zips about like a hummingbird in a hurricane. In the last post, Debi dragged us through a theological swamp to explain how all men are created in one of three types which mimic the three-persons of the Trinity.  Today, we get to learn how The Prophet/Visionary Man / Holy Spirit's image on Earth works. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Bitter, Critical Woman

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 178—180This section is weird for me. Why? Because, well, I found myself agreeing with it, for the most part. And not just that, but I found it speaking to my own personal life and experiences. This week we are looking at a letter, and the one sentence of commentary Debi attaches to it. This is still in the chapter on women loving their children, which make it odd, because at first glance (and second glance, and third glance) it has very little to do with, well, women loving their children. But enough of this introduction. Let’s have a look, shall we? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Bitter Rooms or Silencing Techniques?

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from Growing Up Duggar page 155 Harmful GossipOne other big issue we've witnessed in the social media world is that some people get hooked on reading gossip and then post their own slanderous statements about others, whom they sometimes don't even know. Or they post something they would never say to that person face-to-face. It comes across as though those posters have nothing better to do with their time. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThe next three chapters cover Debi's conceptualization of the personality types of men.  I will give Debi credit for coming up with a schema that I've never heard or seen before.  The chapters on The Prophet (Visionary Man) and The Priest (Steady Man) are rather gentle and painless for a Pearl book.   She gives some breathtakingly bad advice but spends less time than normal running people down."God tells us right at the beginning of the Bible that he created man in his own image. "And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness" (Genesis 1:26)" … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be His Help Meet: Creative Interpretations of the Book of Ruth

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAfter Debi finishes twisting Esther from an active woman into a passive girl, Debi turns her attention to Ruth.  In her discussion of the Book of Ruth, Debi pulls a two-fer: Ruth is a passive follower as befits a young girl while Naomi, a wise older woman, gives her great counsel.  In short, Debi uses the story of Ruth to imply that Debi's young, naive readers should follow Debi's ideas unquestioningly.   On a positive note, Debi is blessedly brief on the subject.Away we go! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Porn and Romance Novels Create Idealized Lies?

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by the Duggar girls from their book "Growing Up Duggar" page 111 and rather ironic considering Jill's recent marriage and Jessa's courtship with Ben Seewald "We have met some girls who have simply fallen in love with the idea of marriage and are just looking for a guy to fulfill their dreams.  They have an image in mind of what marriage is, and they are in love with that image. One girl told us recently, "I was in love with the thought of being in love, and it consumed my every waking hour." This is one of the greatest dangers of romance novels. They paint a picture of an unrealistic, unobtainable relationship. It's the same thing pornography does to men. Viewing pornography gives them a … [Read more...]


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