Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 5 – The Wedding

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows And Kids CollideDebi spends quite a bit of time asking Yetta questions about her wedding.  Since I find going over the details of a wedding of a person I don't know dull, I'm just gonna pick out pertinent questions. Q: Your flowers were great, too.  I liked the fall colors.  They must have cost a lot?A: I have a story about the flowers.  When Kent and I first began to see each other we both started saving money for our wedding and our honeymoon.  Together we decided how much we would spend for each part of the wedding. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet ‘ – What Type of Girl am I?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Can Guys View Attractive Girls As Just Friends?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 2 The Wedding

Image by Mel "A small wedding is hard to pull off with 23 aunts/uncles + 50 first cousins on the bride's side"

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi gives us a rundown on how she felt about Yetta's wedding. Yetta is interviewed later in the chapter, but Debi gets her two-cents in first - with plenty of incorrect verb tenses, misspelled words, and floating commas. Here is what one wise young woman did for her non-stress (sic), joyful wedding.When I attend (sic) Yetta's wedding, I was struck with its personal style and sheer simplicity. It was clear that everyone, including the bride and groom, was relaxed and having a good time. The people attending will look back to this wedding and think, "Wasn't it wonderful? They looked so happy." … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 4 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide  I, Leah, grew up in Texas, the oldest of five home-educated children. I loved to play golf, tennis, and chess. I graduated from the Culinary School of Fort Worth and Thomas Edison State College with a Bachelor's in Business Administration. Whoa! Two people with actual college degrees. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've found two different types of toxic views in reading CP literature. The more common toxicity is "Do this or really bad things will happen to you!" Debi has given us plenty of these examples so far. This chapter is a different type of toxic. This is the "Do this and life will be magical!" toxicity.Personally, I think the second type is more pernicious than the first. With the first, once you've done the forbidden action, you can figure out pretty quickly if the predicted bad outcome happens. The second type, though, is hard to disprove because life isn't always magical. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – Pie in the Sky

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDo you think Debi believes in confidentiality or getting permission before using a story from someone else's life?I work very diligently to either get permission before sharing a story -especially a potentially embarrassing story - OR remove any details that could possibly be used to trace the original person. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 2 – Pie in the Sky

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide(Trigger Warning for abusive church behaviors.)Ever wonder if Debi would pull her punches on friends?She doesn't. When a "friend" has the audacity to get a divorce from an abusive husband AND marry a different man, Debi spews out the massive misinformation created by a conspiracy to destroy the woman's magazine.I know it sounds crazy...but the information is a matter of public record since the woman and her second husband were brave enough to sue. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 4 – Antsy Babies

Does Debi realize in her putting down of 'whirlwind romances' and William Shakespeare's 'Romeo and Juliet' that it wasn't an impatient Juliet throwing herself unbidden at Romeo, but an almost stalker-like Romeo recklessly pursuing Juliet.

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAt the end of the chapter, Debi starts muddling the message again. She's got a difficult balancing act to pull off. If a girl chases a guy, she'll end up married to a pervert. If a girl is too aloof, she'll end up alone - which is the end of world in DebiLand. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part Three – Antsy Babies

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThis next made-up story case is a hoot. Debi bites off more than she can chew when she tries to mix "online matchmaking" with a morality tale. Case #2: An Old Antsy Babe A mature, older woman had been single for a number of years. She decided to try an online matchmaking site to find a match. I went online in my late twenties to get more experience dating and eventually find a partner. … [Read more...]


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