Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Mel’s Interjection on Traits of Narcissists

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI hate a few chapters of Debi's book.  The Kingly Man Chapter is one of them.  It's so incredibly toxic.  The whole chapter is essentially an apologia for narcissistic men and an instruction manual for how to be an enabler instead of a wife. To counter-balance some of the toxicity, I read the book "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists" by Eleanor Payson. This book helped me clarify some of the traits in Michael Pearl that are unhealthy and also recognize Debi as a covert narcissist as well.  I'll be referring back to the book throughout the King Chapter, but also later in the book since I think we can determine some inter … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn the next installment on Priestly Men, Debi paints picture of what life for the wife of a Priestly Man is like with a huge interruption by a Visionary Man on a side note. "The key is to know you man.  In what image has God created him?  You, as his help meet, will need to  learn to conform to your man.  God's Word says, in Hebrews 13:8,  "Jesus Christ the same yesterday, today and forever." On the 90's TV show Animanics, there was a reoccurring segment called "The Wheel of Morality".  The characters would pull out a giant game-show wheel, spin it and read a canned moral that printed off. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 2

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn this installment, Debi struggles to create 'down sides' for the Steady/Priestly Man.  She manages to find one problem that might cause actual problems and makes-up three others that are really tame compared to the hell of being married to a Prophet or a King.Oh, but Debi does figure out how to rag on women. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Girl’s ‘List’?

featuring Debi Pearl talking about her book Preparing To Be A Help MeetQUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 1

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Priest Part 1by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI like this chapter - especially compared to the Visionary Man chapter and the King chapter.  The Priest/Steady Man seems to be a nice, calm, down-to-earth kind of guy.Most of the chapter focuses on explaining additional negatives about being married to a Prophet or King because if you are reading her book you should be preparing for marriage to a lunatic.  You have been warned. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet: Part 5

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAh....The last section on the Prophet begins.  Debi, prophetically, informs us of how in-laws will destroy your marriage. "Having the blessing and guidance of parents is priceless for many reasons." The fact that Debi home-schooled her children terrifies me.  With the topic sentence above, a reader would expect to the author to explain why the blessing and guidance of parents is useful.There is NOTHING in this chapter that supports that sentence.  ZIP. ZERO. NADA. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet: Part 4c

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideFinally, at long last, Debi graces us with actual tips on how to live with a Prophet/Visionary man."If you marry a Visionary Man, learn to enjoy the trip, for if he ever makes a better light bulb, he will want you to be the one who turns it on for the first time in public.  It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done.  You are his most important fan.  When you know your man really needs you, you can be happy with just about anything."Start taking acting classes, ladies!  Remember, you need to look enthusiastic even if the invention/idea is absolutely awful.  If you keep acting lo … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet Part 4b

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI'm gonna keep slogging through this chapter."He will easily pick up and relocated without any idea of what he is going to do for a living at the new location."That ended really well for the Pearls. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet Part 4a

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideIn this chapter, we get a series of stories and anecdotes about what living with a Prophet/Visionary Man is like.  I am certain 90% of these stories come from Debi's actual life with Mike Pearl...and that's depressing.I'm just going to go sequentially from the beginning of the chapter where Debi has spoken about how an unbalanced Prophet/Visionary Man can get the whole family upset over issues. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The Prophet Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideLast time, I gathered up all of the general descriptions of Prophet / Visionary Men that Debi sprinkled through Chapter 3.  Now, we get to move on to the specific examples of what life with a Prophet/Visionary Man is like according to Debi."The Prophet type will make a great boyfriend because he will focus totally on his sweetie.  He will be very romantic, giving you flowers and gifts.  If you catch the heart of a Prophet you will be his consuming passion, his greatest challenge, his dream come true. "In other words, the Prophet is in love with being in love with you.  That's not a great foundation for marriage. … [Read more...]


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