Bill Gothard has negatively affected my life: Part 2

May 22, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Shadow Spring My twin sister flopped down on her bed, a dreamy look on her face. She was clutching a beautiful down parka to her chest, hugging it like a teddy bear. I sat tentatively on the edge of the bed, swinging my feet that were snugly encased in my new leather boots

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Bill Gothard has negatively affected my life…Part 1

May 21, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Shadow Spring I started this blog to have a space to write about how patriarchal fundamentalist thought had affected my marriage and resulted in disaster on many levels. The truth is that patriarchal fundamentalist thought had already wreaked havoc on my life before I even met my husband,

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This is NOT Homeschooling: Is HSLDA Part of a “Bible-Based Cult”?

May 15, 2013 By 9 Comments
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by Heather Doney This may be the most important and most scary post on homeschooling that I have ever written. It feels like something out of a Margaret Atwood novel and I am numb as I write this, so please bear with me. The title of this post is not rhetorical. It is a question [...]

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Open Thread Discussion on Christian Fundamentalism

April 12, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison Over on the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blog, Defeating the Dragons, Samantha is looking for input on readers’ personal experiences with Christian fundamentalism. One of the questions she asks is: I know that some of you

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How Male Dominated Religion Bleeds Women

March 14, 2013 By 22 Comments
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by Cindy Foster My husband, Paul, and I were enjoying some Mexican food at a restaurant near where we were staying in Houston last night. Sitting at a table in very close proximity to ours was a Muslim family.  We see a lot of Muslim families these days, but more so

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