Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 5: Waking Up

June 8, 2010 By

by Kiery A failure, that’s what I was, a giant failure. I couldn’t be the daughter my parents wanted me to be. I had tasted freedom, and I felt like I deserved it. I couldn’t go back to being the second mom after being told I was an adult. Adults can’t take their children’s adulthood [...]

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Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 4: Growing Up

April 29, 2010 By

by Kiery The thing about training is that eventually, you grow up and exercise what you were taught. I was taught to think for myself, to stand up regardless of pressure, and in the end, that’s what I did. The last half of my 16th year my parents spent drilling into me that I was [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Alienation, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Chastisement, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Birth Control, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris, Child Abuse, Child Labor, Child Training, Chores, Chores, Chores!, Christian Apologetics, Christian Modesty, Courtship / Betrothal, Creation Science / Creationism, Depression, Do Hard Things by Brett & Alex Harris, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Educational Neglect, Emotional Purity, Family Integrated Church, Family Ministry / Service, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Home Birth, Home Church, Homemaking Skills, Homeschool, Honoring Parents, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Mental / Emotional Health, Militant Fecundity, Mother's Helper, NLQ Stories, Old Paths, Parentification of Children, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull Counterculture, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Harm, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Separation - Individuation, Shunning, Socialization, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Myth of Teenage Rebellion, The Rebelution (Brett & Alex Harris), Umbrella of Authority, Visionary Daughters (Anna Sophia & Elizabeth Botkin), Youth Group Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 3: Critical Thinking

April 2, 2010 By

by Kiery Many people tell me I’m brave, they can’t believe how strong I am. Ten years of playing “mommy 2” isn’t overly common in the outside world. People at church would often tell me how lucky my parents were to have me and say “I bet you help out a lot, huh?” and I would [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Alienation, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Chastisement, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Birth Control, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris, Child Abuse, Child Labor, Child Training, Chores, Chores, Chores!, Christian Apologetics, Christian Modesty, Courtship / Betrothal, Creation Science / Creationism, Depression, Do Hard Things by Brett & Alex Harris, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Educational Neglect, Emotional Purity, Family Integrated Church, Family Ministry / Service, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Home Birth, Home Church, Homemaking Skills, Homeschool, Honoring Parents, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Mental / Emotional Health, Militant Fecundity, Mother's Helper, NLQ Stories, Old Paths, Parentification of Children, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull Counterculture, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Harm, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Separation - Individuation, Shunning, Socialization, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Myth of Teenage Rebellion, The Rebelution (Brett & Alex Harris), Umbrella of Authority, Visionary Daughters (Anna Sophia & Elizabeth Botkin), Youth Group Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 2: Maintaining Appearances

March 19, 2010 By

by Kiery In time, I would begin to envision myself as a fair rose hidden inside metal armor. Afraid to grow, afraid to feel, staying inside a metal cage meant to protect. As far as appearances went though, you’d never know I felt that way. I don’t think my own family knew how I felt, [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Alienation, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Chastisement, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Birth Control, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris, Child Abuse, Child Labor, Child Training, Chores, Chores, Chores!, Christian Apologetics, Christian Modesty, Courtship / Betrothal, Creation Science / Creationism, Depression, Do Hard Things by Brett & Alex Harris, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Educational Neglect, Emotional Purity, Family Integrated Church, Family Ministry / Service, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Home Birth, Home Church, Homemaking Skills, Homeschool, Honoring Parents, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Mental / Emotional Health, Militant Fecundity, Mother's Helper, NLQ Stories, Old Paths, Parentification of Children, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull Counterculture, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Harm, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Separation - Individuation, Shunning, Socialization, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Myth of Teenage Rebellion, The Rebelution (Brett & Alex Harris), Umbrella of Authority, Visionary Daughters (Anna Sophia & Elizabeth Botkin), Youth Group Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 1: Big Girls Don't Feel

March 11, 2010 By

by Kiery I’m no stranger to hard things. In ways my life was built around doing hard things and part of that has made me who I am today. I’m no stranger to sacrifice, conflict, or rejection. For a while, these things seemed to follow me and my family wherever we went. In 19 years, [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Alienation, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Chastisement, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Birth Control, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris, Child Abuse, Child Labor, Child Training, Chores, Chores, Chores!, Christian Apologetics, Christian Modesty, Courtship / Betrothal, Creation Science / Creationism, Depression, Do Hard Things by Brett & Alex Harris, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Educational Neglect, Emotional Purity, Family Integrated Church, Family Ministry / Service, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Home Birth, Home Church, Homemaking Skills, Homeschool, Honoring Parents, I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Mental / Emotional Health, Militant Fecundity, Mother's Helper, NLQ Stories, Old Paths, Parentification of Children, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull Counterculture, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Harm, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Separation - Individuation, Shunning, Socialization, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Myth of Teenage Rebellion, The Rebelution (Brett & Alex Harris), Umbrella of Authority, Visionary Daughters (Anna Sophia & Elizabeth Botkin), Youth Group Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,