Lourdes, Lifeboats, and Bounded Choice: The Complicated Process of Exiting Totalist Groups Part 1

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from The Spiritual Sounding BoardAfter reading the account of the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel abuse by Vision Forum founder, Doug Phillips, Cindy Kunsman reflects on her own sex abuse story.Note from Julie Anne:  I remember talking to Cindy Kunsman around the time the Lourdes Torres-Manteufel lawsuit was made public. Lourdes’ story greatly affected her in a personal way, reminding her of her own sexually abusive childhood. This sometimes happens when someone else’s story reminds us of our own painful experience. Statistics tell us that there are a lot of people who have been sexually abused. If you have been sexually abused, this may be a sensitive subject f … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Buy Used and Save the Difference?

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by the Duggar girls, Jill, Jana, Jessa and Jinger Duggar in their book "Growing Up Duggar" page 17 Very interesting in light of the preparations for Jill's recent wedding.  And since our favorite shopping style is frugality, our favorite places to shop are thrift and consignment stores. If you shop there enough (and we go fairly often!) you can find great clothes at great prices. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Floating on Downstream?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Upstream or Downstream? 1 John 5:19 ESV tells us that, "The whole world lies in the power of the evil one." If this world is in the grip of the evil one, how do we live without getting pulled into its grip? How do we keep our children from its control? We've got to swim upstream. … [Read more...]

Child Sexual Molestation and Evangelical Christianity’s Completely F’ed Up Response

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 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI was saddened but not surprised to hear this morning that actress-singer Vanessa L. Williams (my favorite on the show "Ugly Betty") had been sexually molested at ten years old. She came out and told the story on "Oprah's Master Class"Vanessa explained how her experience had played out in the rest of her life, her early sexual experiences, bad choices in relationships, the guilt and shame, the bout of promiscuity. … [Read more...]

Hormonal Therapy, Medical Treatment and Birth Control

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsOn Monday, Rachel Held Evans ran “Why I Use Birth Control,” which featured my story with ten other women. What I wrote for her focused on the fact that I use the NuvaRing to manage my PCOS/endo and painful periods. I focused on that part of my story for a few reasons; first, it’s the only reason I’ve really had to use the NuvaRing up until recently, and second because the time in my life when I couldn’t afford it and had a cyst rupture was extremely relevant to what’s happening with the Hobby Lobby decision. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse, Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 9

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoThis is (I promise) the last of the series on modesty, cowboys, and clothing.I was only planning one part to the piece on modesty and lust.  A funny thing happened along the way.  The letter I wrote, about the condemnation of fashion, and costume started it all.  Many thanks to Suzanne Calulu at No Longer Quivering for picking up the tawdry tale.  It’s also a way to get to use my favorite photo of Wyatt Earp.But – what truly sent me over the edge was the rant about cowboys. There are times when we end up in the right time and place in this world. As a Christian, I happen to think this is divine guidance. Let’s put it this … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Answering Objections to Home BIrth on High Risk Pregnancies?

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by Zsuzanna Anderson, wife of Steven L. Anderson pastor of Faithful Word Baptist Church  - from Zsuzanna's blog Are They All Yours? - Home Birth Haters Question From a Reader: With all of the complications you have had in this pregnancy, why on earth would you ever consider a home birth? Why in the world would you risk your baby's health and perhaps even his life? If you were so willing to allow extensive interventions during pregnancy, I just can't understand why you would risk everything at the end? I'm not trying to be critical, I'm just completely baffled. I've heard one too many stories (one of which happened to someone close to me) of babies dying because of the lack of adequate care … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Wedding Fetish?

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It seems that Jill Duggar's recent marriage to Derick Dillard is making Michelle Duggar wax poetic about her own wedding to Jim Bob. Does it strike anyone else that reenacting your wedding every year is a little 'odd'? It seems to be normal in the Evangelical Fundamentalist Quiverfull world to turn daily life, babies, cooking, keeping house, etc, etc, into a fetish-like thing.From US magazine  - Michelle Duggar Reminisces about her simple wedding to Jim Bob Duggar "As our children were growing up, we would listen to our wedding cassette again every year on our anniversary," she wrote. "We would reenact the ceremony, show them how we walked down the aisle, and tell them the stories about … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Birth Control Industry Saves Insurance Companies From Paying For All Those Pesky Babies?

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Ladies Against Feminism is putting a completely different spin on the recent Supreme Court Hobby Lobby Decision by quoting Mercator Net. Their claim is that the main reason insurance companies cover birth control is because it's cheaper than pay for a baby.As quoted at Ladies Against Feminism - If anyone thought the controversy over Obamacare’s contraceptive mandate finished with the Supreme Court’s decision it’s time to think again. Over the past months the battle has been framed as conscience rights versus contraceptive rights. Now that conscience has won the first fight on points, a second round could be fought over money. … [Read more...]

News: Jill and Derick Dillard Getting Reality Show?

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Celebitchy is speculating that Jill Duggar Dillard and her new husband Derick might just be vying for their own reality show. From Celebitchy - Are Jill Duggar and her new husband, Derick Dillard, gunning for their own reality show?  Now that they’re back home, Jill has Instagrammed photos with Derick in which they’re kissing, doing couples stuff like making dinner and going to breakfast, and one where she’s cutting Derick’s hair. They’re somewhat personal photos, is what I’m saying. A lot of people share things like that on their Facebook, but this is on an open Instagram page. These people are somewhat famous and Jill knows that everything she posts will be picked up by the media. … [Read more...]


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