It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textChapter 5 went really fast.  Chapter 6 feels like it will never end.Overarching Themes:Modesty in women starts with denying your own skills.... "The subject of modesty has already been covered from head to toe by other, much wiser authors, so we'll keep this short." (pg. 102) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing ‘Modestly’ Protects You From Creeps?

by Zack Clark from Girl Defined - Smart Dudes Aren't Looking at Your BodyEditor's note: I beg to differ. I don't care if you're covered up from neck to ankle, there are always going to be some men that will look and lust over that exposed inch of ankle skin. Cover that ankle skin and some guys will be drooling over your ear lobes. Plus creepy guys are going to approach you no matter what. Better to teach about sexual consent and how to deal gracefully with pushy guys that will be trying to hit on you uninvited than to claim if you dress modestly enough you'll be protected against those types. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cover Up You Temptress?

by Lisa Jacobson as reposted by Daughters of the King - Avert Your EyesEditor's note: We've shared this piece of shaming and blaming before, but it bears revisiting in light of the sexual scandals in many churches and the budding rape culture in the worlds of fundamentalism, evangelical and quiverfull Christianity.  What about teaching young men to not think of women's bodies as pieces of meat meant for sex or sexual temptation, and to treat them like genuine people? Do you think that might end this sort of torment for this poor kid if he wasn't hyper-sexualized by purity culture? … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Examples of Christian Rape Culture?

by Shaney Irene from Faith Filled Thoughts From The Front Porch - Everyday Examples of Christian Rape CultureEditor's note: This is an excellent article with many different aspects of how rape culture is prominent in Evangelical Christianity and Quiverfull. Only sharing the first three points, so you'll need to go to the original article to read the rest. The question that this brings up in my mind is how do we go around ending rape culture in the church? Do we call it out and not tolerate it? Or do we work from within to end it? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So God Invented Clothing?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - The Bikini is Destroying the Christian Girl's View of ModestyEditor's note: First, it's been considered 'normal' to swim nude by most Europeans for a lot longer than the advent of the bikini. Europeans are much less sexualized or hung up on the idea of unclothed body parts. Also, correct me if I'm wrong but weren't Adam and Eve nude in the Garden of Eden until they ate from the tree of knowledge, which made them feel shame over their nakedness, leading to them donning leaves? God seemed totally cool with the two of them hanging out in their birthday suits in the garden. Their own shame led to the clothing, not God suddenly opening up a ancient Brooks … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sports Uniforms Are Not Modest?

by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Having Courage When the Bathing Suit is Way Too SmallEditor's note: Should the modesty level of a uniform worn for group sports really be that much of a problem? Why is everything in the world of fundamentalist / evangelical world so much more difficult than out in the world? You play basketball, then you don the shorts and shirt, you swim you wear your team swimsuit. It is really not that hard. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Rape Victim Blaming at LAF?

by an unnamed editor at Ladies Against Feminism - Family Edge: You Can' Say That! Feminists Enraged at Rape VictimEditor's note: I know this is several weeks old but... as usual LAF takes every opportunity to slut shame rape victims. This time they used the outrage over The Pretenders Chrissy Hynde's words about her rape in her recent autobiography to drive home the point that they think if you weren't sober and dressed like a nun that you got what you deserved while bashing the feminist movement. I've refrained from bringing up Ms. Hydne's thoughts about her rape here because it always struck me more as the words of someone that has never emotionally dealt with or healed from what … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: LAF Thinks Boys Should Be Allowed To Develop Neanderthal Ideas About Girls?

by Dan Bell at The Telegraph as quoted at Ladies Against Feminism - We must stop indoctrinating boys in feminist ideologyEditor's note: This is exactly what it looks like when men and women support and promote the long-standing Rape Culture in patriarchal theology. It's the flip side of their purity culture -- Don't wear anything that tempts a man into lust, but if you do he's allowed to rape you. Is it really a bad thing to teach our children from a young age that no one is owed sex from anyone else? … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]


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