‘Bloom Where You’re Planted’ as a Thought Stopping Cliche

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman at Under Much Grace and used with permission. Article is 4 pages long.I'd heard that phrase before, but even now and even with my positive experience with the concept many years later, the phrase still connotes something negative for me.The last post detailed my very good experience with the sage advice of determination to bloom and grow, even if it's not where you want to be or the conditions are not that favorable.ion … [Read more...]

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Daffodil Season Ends but Recovery Continues

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. More than a month ago, I learned about some cruel gossip that's being spread about me and it triggered a host of complicated hurdles for me. The questions of others sent me back to revisit my history of hopping around through some truly fringe varieties of cultic Christianity, but I also found myself more affected by the deep personal losses that are all wrapped around that history, too. … [Read more...]

Daffodils of Integration: First Promise of Joy Through Recovery

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace James Taylor's melancholy Fire and Rain which laments the unexpected loss of a friend, and I now think of the loss of integration of trauma when I hear him sing “sweet dreams and flying machines in pieces on the ground.”In a way, that is what trauma does to us. Our dreams break apart, perhaps because they weren't very realistic but sometimes because we don't have time to realize them because we're so busy trying to figure out how to put ourselves back together. Sometimes, we just can't recover all that we've lost. Sometimes, we lose our ability to fly because the pieces lay on the ground, smashed and broken because of what hap … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World ~ Part 4: Acknowledgement and Apologies

In light of the painful situation in the Jeub family we're revisiting mothers apologies to Quiverfull daughters:by Vyckie Garrison [Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.] … [Read more...]

Exploring Trust in Forgiveness (What can we learn from the tragic death of Braxton Caner)

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace A Reposting from the blog series on forgiveness, repentance and reconciliation from 2012.  What can we learn from tragedy - the loss of Braxton Caner?  What hidden lessons can we find? ~~~  The Importance of Trust-building in Forgiveness … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pot Meet Kettle – Modesty Standards and Religion?

by Bojidar Marinov from The American Vision - Civilization and Self ControlNo wonder Islam seldom teaches self-control in man. While acknowledging the destructive nature of male uncontrolled lust, Islam leaves it to women to protect themselves and society from destruction by choosing their clothing in such a way as to completely shut them off from the world. Men are supposed to remain at the level of immature puberty their whole lives. Women and girls are supposed to act wise and mature from a very early age, exercising external control where men are unable to exercise internal self-control. In the Shariah legislation, a woman is guilty of adultery even when raped. It must be her fault, … [Read more...]

Male Headship and the Problem of Power

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsSeveral people have asked me privately to follow up on the radio conversation I participated in on Up For Debate last weekend on the topic "Does God Expect Men to be Spiritual Leaders?"  They asked me to focus specifically on what was said by the caller-in named "Linda."The comments on my blog post about the radio show also were focused on that portion of the broadcast-- so I will say now what I wish I had been prepared and had time to say then. … [Read more...]

I’m a Feminist Because of Men

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsDuring my sophomore year, my male piano instructor announced he was leaving Pensacola Christian College, and I asked him why. One of the reasons he gave stuck with me, especially over the next few years as he was proven right many times. He claimed that PCC’s administration did not treat women with dignity– which at first I completely dismissed. But my junior year, a job opening became … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Dysfunctional Personalities

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI found this list of what the likely personality flaws children of alcoholics develop and it struck me that the list isn't just about alcoholism. It could apply to many different types of dysfunction, people raised in extreme religion, with toxic parents, workaholics, drug addicts, whatever. It works for a laundry list of dysfunction. … [Read more...]


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