Bruce, You Were No Good as a Pastor and You Hurt Our Family

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it's healing to see someone who held a position of spiritual authority who is actually open to saying how sorry they are for the damage they caused, either directly or inadvertently. Most of us will never receive that 'Sorry' that we're owed by the one person that was charged with being out shepherd and with our care. Kudos to you. Bruce!Today, a man who says his name is Andrew Beltz, left a troubling comment on the Why I Hate Jesus post. Beltz wrote: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Helping or Inappropriately Preying on Naive Women?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from Are They All Yours?!?!? - Nightmarish Memories of Nursery HellEditor's note: We have shared parts of this post before. It's Zsuzsanna Anderson's recital of their time at Jack Schaap's church, First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana and at the Hyles Anderson College. Most of the post is her reasons why day care and even church nursery is a bad idea but then Zsuzsanna relates this rather creepy story rife with sexual abuse about Dr. Streeter. … [Read more...]

I Can’t Be Biased!

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI). … [Read more...]

Craniorectal Inversions That Misjudge the Book by its Cover

by Cindy Kunsman cross  posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace used with permission Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI). … [Read more...]

Bizarre Biases and Memory Orientation: Craniorectal Inversions 3 Thru 5

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission. In the previous set of posts about the Ladder of Inference, we named Inattentional Blindness as our most recent cognitive bias of interest [a.k.a. CranioRectal Inversion (CRI)]. The Invisible Gorilla demonstrated for us that we don't take information in objectively, and that focus and other factors in our environment can alter our attention. You would think that someone would notice something as absurd as a gorilla walking through a group of kids passing basketballs back and forth, but 50% of people never see the gorilla because of the divided attention task … [Read more...]

Betraying Jesus

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalWhen I was a young woman I fell in love with a man who didn't know how to love anyone but himself. (The number of 'relationships' he's chewed through before, since... and even while we were married, bears out this reality.)But I was young and trusting. I believed his lies. I married him. … [Read more...]

Sunday Quotes – Isolation

Stay in touch! Like No Longer Quivering on Facebook:No Longer QuiveringIf this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page and our Comment Policy!Copyright notice: If you use any content from NLQ, including any of our research or Quoting Quiverfull quotes, please give us credit and a link back to this site. All original content is owned by No Longer Quivering and Patheos.comRead our hate mail at Jerks 4 Jesus Comments open below NLQ Recommended Reading … Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement by Kathryn Joyce 13:24 - A Story of Faith and Obsession by M Dolon HickmonAmazon.com Widgets … [Read more...]

Cranial-Rectal Inversion #1 – The Hindsight Bias

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. Looking at cognitive biases can be a sticky business because it's a term used in psychology, but the tricks our brain can play on us can overlap with other concepts and errors. Geeks coined the term in the 1970s, but we see elements of the things in our daily lives. The same kinds of errors overlap with logical fallacies to which these biases in thought contribute. I see the “weapons of influence” used in sales as a blending of both, just as thought reform does (according to those other geeks who coined those terms). … [Read more...]

Falling Down

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI have to confess that I found myself reacting the other day to some words which had triggered me, and left me hearing repeated echoes of past abuse. I reacted. I struggled. I felt like I'd lost my footing and was flailing around trying to find my balance. "Not again," I thought, attempting to regain my equilibrium.And as I wrestled with that reality, I was dragged down by the weight of failure. After all, I'd experienced so much healing since I lived in that old head-space. What on earth was wrong with me!? … [Read more...]

Fly Away From Dream Squashers For Safety and Stability

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceWhen preparing to write this post, I kept thinking about a scene on Everybody Loves Raymond where one of the characters named Robert says something quite true about what he calls “dream squashers.” Deborah, his sister-in-law, discusses returning to her career while the rest of the family focuses on the negative aspects of the idea. I identify with how Robert recounts his childhood dreams as he encourages Deborah to “strap a rocket on her back” so she can fly away from the naysayers – the dream squashers. It helps me make light of things, but the statement that he makes is very valid. … [Read more...]