Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World ~ Part 4: Acknowledgement and Apologies

In light of the painful situation in the Jeub family we're revisiting mothers apologies to Quiverfull daughters:by Vyckie Garrison [Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.] … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 4

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDuring all of these years, I would come to church, sit four or five rows from the pulpit, right on the center aisle, and listen to Elliot and others preach grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. Elliot preached and preached. I wept and wept openly. I could not sing. I could not so much as close my eyes in prayer. I could not stand for the blessing at the end of the service. I knew that no matter how much Elliot preached those words to everyone else in the congregation, they were not for me. And I would email him and tell him as much. Without response. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 3

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts One day I received a call from the new pastor at another church in the same town. They were looking for a person to direct the choir and lead some worship teams. I ended up resigning from my position at the Bible college to work for this church. I made it clear that I would come and lead their music ministry, but I was not interested in leaving my church.  They accepted my position and I was there for almost two years.  During that time I discovered that they were a very divisive congregation who spent a great deal of time expressing what they were against – whether it had to do with music or youth ministry or the way the pla … [Read more...]

Matthew 18 and Spiritual Abuse

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsI have been asked a few times over the last several months to do a blog post on Matthew 18:15-17, where Jesus teaches about what to do if a member of a Christian group is committing wrongs that are harmful enough that they cannot be overlooked.  Here's the text, from the 2011 NIV: “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they r … [Read more...]

It’s Life Jim, But Not As We Knew It

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalWe've reached a milestone.It's been one and a half years since my husband and I decided we couldn't take it any more.18 months since we officially said, "No More!"No more pain. No more abuse.And we walked away from life as we'd known it.Away from 'going to church'. Away from 'doing' church. Away from an institution that used to mean safety, security, religious observances - but  had come to represent wounding and rejection and judgment and grief and fear and heartbreak and loss. … [Read more...]

Cyberstalking by clergy

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 from Orthodox-Christian.com reposted with permission (Editor's note: While this article is about stalking laws in the state of Illinois most states do have in  place very similar anti-stalking laws. Check with your specific jurisdiction for what laws apply in your state.)Cyberstalking is a nightmare, no matter who is doing it to you. It’s always bad, but I think it’s really “sick and twisted” when it’s done by people who are supposed to be religious leaders. You probably already know that some churches and groups are cults in disguise. Sometimes cult escapees find that the leaders don’t want to let go of them. … [Read more...]

So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?: Bible Verses Atheists Love

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by NLQ Founder Vyckie GarrisonValerie Tarico recently asked me to pick a bible verse that I actually like for this article, "Bible Verses That Atheists Love" which she wrote for AlterNet. I'm honored to be included with a bunch of awesome fellow skeptics; many of whom also chose Ecclesiastes (✿◠‿◠)My response was too long and had to be edited for the article. For my friends, here's the unedited version:And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God. --Ecclesiastes 3:13 … [Read more...]

Farris: Patriarchy Makes Kids Gay and Atheists

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismIf you read my blog, you’re probably aware of the Christian homeschooling subculture’s patriarchy problem. A variety of prominent Christian homeschool leaders have been promoting patriarchal family structures at homeschool conventions and in homeschool publications for well over a decade, and two of those leaders—Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips—have recently fallen, engulfed in scandal. Michael Farris, another prominent Christian homeschool leader, has since come out criticizing these leaders and the “patriarchy” they taught. Now Farris has openly criticized “patriarchy” as part of a keynote address while keynoting at a homeschool … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fashion Leads to Lust?

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by Stephanus Blignaut from Go Tell My People - Modesty: Discouraging Lust and Encouraging Godliness Women are so easily caught up in “what everyone is doing” or what is available in the shops and what is promoted in magazines and TV. They don’t think about how their body is portrayed and what it causes in men – the stumbling block it becomes for men. Women condemn lust in a man when they see it but somehow they don’t make the connection between the condemnable lust and their own clothes that they are wearing. Not realizing this makes them stand guilty before God as a stumbling stone because of the lust they caused. … [Read more...]

Mary Pride denies founding the Quiverfull movement?

by Vyckie Garrison (Editor's Note: This was originally published on NLQ back around three or four years ago. Sharing again as it seems appropriate in light of our recent discussions about Mary Pride)A couple months back, I received an email from Mary Pride -- apparently, she's feeling the pressure since Frank Schaeffer mentioned her in his latest book, Sex, Mom & God, and has been talking in various interviews about her role in founding the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements with her book, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism and Back to Reality.If you Google "Mary Pride" -- NLQ comes up 4th on the results page -- I'm guessing that's how she ended up emailing me: … [Read more...]


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