Is This Modest?

January 11, 2013 By 12 Comments
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by Calulu Yesterday afternoon I was doing a ramble around the interwebs when I ran across this article by Jezebel.com. It was titled “Batshit Ridiculous Modesty Website Reminds You Women Just Can’t Win” and was about a modesty website. After I read it I started thinking I’d seen the

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Prospect.org: Purity Culture is Rape Culture

January 10, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra Trigger warning: The linked article contains a graphic description of gang rape. In fact, the warning applies to all of the links in this post. E.J. Graff at The American Prospect writes, in Purity Culture is Rape Culture: Too many people still conceive of rape as a man’s overwhelming urge to enjoy the body [...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Self Policing Modesty?

January 9, 2013 By 8 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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Quoting Quiverfull: Glorified Divorce Practice?

January 7, 2013 By 7 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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“Taking Her Myself” A New Trend in Quiverfull Courtship/Betrothal

January 6, 2013 By 37 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison (originally posted at Politicus USA Sept. 9, 2011) “Does God Hate Women?“ author, Ophelia Benson recently shared a note which was posted on Reddit written by a young patriarch describing his “biblical marriage.”  As Bible-believing Baptists who hold to reformed theology,

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