Post-Cult Trauma Syndrome

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAfter exiting a cult, an individual may experience a period of intense and often conflicting emotions. She or he may feel relief to be out of the group, but also may feel grief over the loss of positive elements in the cult, such as friendships, a sense of belonging or the feeling of personal worth generated by the group's stated ideals or mission. The emotional upheaval of the period is often characterized by "post- cult trauma syndrome": … [Read more...]

Is Spiritual Abuse Biblical?

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceEssentially, the most vivid examples of spiritual abuse come from Ezekiel 34 and Zechariah 11, with the consummate example of spiritual abuse embodied in the Pharisees and Sadducees. Though I’ve listed the references for these Scriptures below, I have also displayed the full texts on the Under Much Grace website, and you can LINK HERE to read them (and as of April 2012, they are also noted below).There are also two excellent articles that discuss whether or not spiritual abuse is actually found within Scripture itself. … [Read more...]

Kings and Other Despots

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalBack in the day, there was a concept known as the "Divine Right of Kings". This meant that if you happened to be lucky enough to be born into the right family, you got to rule - no questions asked.You got to do and say whatever you pleased and no-one had the right to challenge you. You got to dictate to others how they lived and what they believed.You had God himself in your back pocket! … [Read more...]

Creating Conditions for Abuse

by Emily cross posted from her site Christian Patriarchal Watch List For Parents "Bible-based groups that are authoritarian, legalistic, and sanction-oriented tend to create conditions for abuse within families. Survivor blogs/netoworks address how to recognize it and deal with it, with links to outside help and resources, and document family abuse in the Geftakys Assembly. Additional resources on the effects of family abuse, and the proper roles of spouses and parents, can be found in the Biblical Perspectives and Recovery sections of the site. http://www.geftakysassembly.com/Reflections/AbuseInFamilies.htm … [Read more...]

Like A Hero

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDonald Miller has a post at Storyline (storylineblog.com) that stunned me in its accuracy in describing my former pastor.  The title of the post is How Do So Many Good People Get Away With Bad Things?  As my husband and I read through the post together last night, we agreed that no other writer has so precisely captured the characteristics that surrounded our experience. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull – Litmus Test To Avoid Abusive Churches

From the new blog Flee From Christian Fundamentalism - Escape from the Abuse at ChurchEditor's note: Good list of things to look for in any new church you might attend.  But keep in mind that the author is a Methodist and there are also Methodist churches that would fail this list. Every church has the potential to have any one of these things going on, even the mainstream ones. … [Read more...]

Do Not Turn Yourself Inside Out

by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine"Do not turn yourself inside out trying to explain yourself to people who refuse to see you. You know who you are."I really liked this quote; I always seem to find things like this when I really need them. A wave of sadness had hit me yesterday, in part because I was still trying to recover and process from a nightmare the night before. I had this horrible dream Other Child was dying and there was nothing I could do about it. I was at their bedside forced with having to let them go. I think a dream like that is fairly representative of how I am still sorting through my feelings after making the choice to go no contact. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Twisting The Gospel?

by Chelsen Vicari from Charisma Magazine - Here's How the New Christian Left is Twisting the GospelEditor's note: Someone is extremely tone-deaf to the problems with the traditional church model and is blaming those that dare to think there might be better ways to approach faith. As long as the as the traditional core refuse to confront the problems inherent in the Christian Patriarchy Movement people are going to continue to leave and the numbers will grow, just like when a levee cracks and a little hole lets out a little water but as time goes on it becomes a raging torrent of water. Denial isn't pretty. … [Read more...]

Talking My Way to Spiritual Health

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“I’m praying for your healing.”“What makes you think I’m not healed?”“You keep talking about it.  You won’t talk about it any more once you are completely healed.”“Seriously?  Remember how they told me I wasn’t to tell anyone what was happening to me?”“Yeah.”“As along as I wasn’t talking, I was immersed in their abusive treatment.  It wasn’t until I started healing that I was able to talk about it.  In fact, talking about it is one of the best indications that I have healed.  Talking about it means that I am not ashamed, I am not hiding, I am whole and strong and victorious.  Not only that, but talking about it allow … [Read more...]

Father Forgive Them…

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI was angry last night!The big, green, Incredible Hulk type of anger.This morning it's the quietly sickened and disgusted type.Why? … [Read more...]


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