Part 5: Pitfalls in Personal Power – Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll imaged by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace used with permission In the previous post, we explored a couple of ways a person can work on their own to develop better Emotional Self-Regulation after exiting or after growing up in a high demand group. Healthy internal dialogue and building self concept provide individuals with a good opportunity to do a great deal of healing and growth on their own.The concept of “Locus of Control” comes from the study of the psychology of personality and is viewed as another important aspect or component of self concept. It refers to the amount of control that a person bel … [Read more...]

Triggers: So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?

We're starting a new series called "So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next" with posts about healing, explaining some of the things most people that walk away from spiritual abuse suffer from after leaving as well as information on healing from abuse. We invite anyone that wants to write a post for this series to email Suzanne, NLQ Moderator/Admin at CaluluNLQ(at)gmail(dot)com. … [Read more...]

Forced To Believe In Jesus or How Not To Do A Salvation Call

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightTrigger Warning for spiritual abuse and manipulationThere's an interesting debate going on at Bruce Gerencser's blog: The Way Forward. Part of me has been enjoying watching Bruce's readers point out to some roving internet Pastor his incorrect conclusions. Gives me something to do while I'm stuck with my right leg enrobed in a brace, propped up and covered with it's own winter wonderland of ice in a bag. Stillness is so boring.One of Bruce's critics, Pastor Bob, is very busy painting all of the readers and commenters with a paint roller dipped in Sherwin William's newest shade - "Atheist" and issuing 'Come To Jesuses' … [Read more...]

True Love Loves The Unlovely

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeThe chapter of Libby Anne's review of Debi Pearl's "Created To Be His Help Meet" I posted yesterday at NLQ: 'The Tale of the Purple Flowers PJ Girl' triggered me badly this morning. So much of it was utter ridiculous twaddle, the crap that if you actually believe it will wreak havoc with your relationships. It would take me days to point out everything wrong with Debi's points if I were to break it down.But the biggest lie that jumped out at me was this: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Should Marry at 15 Years Old?

by Phil Robertson of "Duck Dynasty" at a Sportsmen Ministry event in 2009 But some Americans could also be shocked to find out that Robertson believes that the age of 15 is the perfect time for girls to get married — as long as they can cook and carry a Bible.At a Sportsmen’s Ministry talk in 2009, Robertson had some advice for a young man. … [Read more...]

Slutty Girls…(Fill in Blank)

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOne of the big phrases I heard many times in my very Catholic family was "Slutty Girls...." with some description of whatever undesirable behavior that these imaginary threatening exemplar ladies were modeling.I heard that hoary old chestnut so many times that if I were to suddenly pick up a Marlboro, flick my Bic and actually inhale I'd hear my mother, my grandmother, my great grandmother and probably countless generations back exclaim in my mind - "Slutty girls smoke" - spoken in parts outraged and cautionary. … [Read more...]

The One That Got Away- Josh Powell and the Ones That Didn’t

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The Light.Author's note: I realize that there are successful home school experiences out there and yes, I know a number of them. The kids I'm speaking of today were all the kids in my art classes. None of them has gone on to any great success yet.It was with great interest I've been following the story of central Virginia's Josh Powell and his quest for a decent education in the face of Virginia's laws allowing homeschooling parents to teach as much and as little as they'd like. He is one very determined young man that took on the world of Virginia homeschooling to do what was right, have the same opportunity towards a well rounded … [Read more...]

Answering Vaughn Ohlman

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The Light(Writer's Note: If I come across as snarky and insulting in parts I do apologize to you, gentle reader. It was oh so hard to reign in my desire to go into full sarcasm mode to reply to Vaughn.)Yesterday I posted at NLQ about Vaughn Ohlman's new blog True Love Doesn't Wait. … [Read more...]

Adventures in Recovery: Happiness is the Best Revenge

 by Calulu In “Jacula Prudentum” (1651) George Herbert said that living well was the best revenge, but I am finding there is actually something else that is better and much freer than living well. … [Read more...]

Who Was That Masked Man?: Food Insecurity

by CaluluLast night as I was channel surfing I ran across a political show that was talking about how Congressman Steven Fincher … [Read more...]


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