Beauty: In the Eye of the Beholder

April 4, 2013 By 81 Comments
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by Calulu Recently I came across a very disturbing blog posting and another and another and another. It was from a blog that I’d quoted recently on No Longer Quivering for our Quoting Quiverfull feature. The post I used from that blog was one where the blogger’s husband tried to say it was alright for [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy, epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

April 4, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Sierra Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances

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Quoting Quiverfull: Battling For Babies?

April 4, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies – April 1, 2013 In all my life I never been so aware of the battle between the forces of darkness and light. It’s hard to believe that even little babies are a target! Yes, sweet innocent beautiful babies,

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Connecting Homeschooling and Religious Abuse

April 3, 2013 By 10 Comments
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by Becoming Worldly I was asked a very good question by a homeschooler recently and figured I’d answer it here as well, expanding on it a little bit. The essence of that question (as I understood it) was “Why are you including homeschooling in your discussion of religious abuse?

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Quoting Quiverfull: Bad Attitude Causes Chronic Illness?

April 3, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Pat Robertson on The 700 Club – April 2, 2013 “The first thing you’ve got to get straight is that what’s happening to you isn’t necessarily ‘God’s plan’ for you,” Robertson said in response, looking into the camera. “What is it Shakespeare said? ‘The fault, dear Brutus,

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