Yes

March 2, 2013 By 6 Comments
Betty, Joan, Peggy

by Samantha Betty, Joan and Peggy from the AMC show “Mad Men” (Editors note: Betty Draper Francis is one of the clearest representations of what the old fashioned complimentarism that patriarchal religions push as the only answer.} The first time I ever heard

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Quoting Quiverfull: Goodwill Sweaters Have Demons?

February 27, 2013 By 21 Comments
Quoting

by Pat Robertson on Monday, February 25, 2013 on The 700 Club – Video at link Robertson was answering a question from viewer Carrie, who wrote: “I buy a lot of clothes and other items at Goodwill and other secondhand shops. Recently my mom told me that

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Does Evangelical Christianity Cause Emotional Damage? Part 1

February 26, 2013 By 10 Comments
KneelingAtTheCross

by Bruce Gerencser Evangelical Christianity teaches that humans are, by nature, sinners. Humans do not become sinners, they are sinners. Humans are born with a sin nature. From the very moment they come into this world they are sinners. This is the lot of

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Love

February 24, 2013 By 7 Comments
god-is-love

by Samantha After my family left our fundamentalist cult, and my life turned upside down –many of the things I’d been told were “true” started unraveling. I started seeing patches of my life, of the way I had been taught to think, were hideously wrong

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Quoting Quiverfull: Marriage Crisis Part 1?

February 22, 2013 By 7 Comments
Quoting

By Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin of Visionary Daughters article “Why Am I Not Married?” – July 1, 2010 Is There a Problem? If there is a problem, we believe it’s not that so many young people are not married – it’s that so many young people are

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