Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Busier Cures Depression?

From No Greater Joy -When You Need a Miracle by Erin Harrison During those black years I felt it would never end. Maybe you didn’t bring into your marriage the baggage I did, and maybe your husband is a mean, lazy jerk or even a pervert, but pity, despair and bitterness will not set you free from your own state of nothingness, lack of productivity, wanting of challenge, or any real rewards. Do you know what I am talking about—working and never seeing the end … [Read more...]

Forced To Believe In Jesus or How Not To Do A Salvation Call

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightTrigger Warning for spiritual abuse and manipulationThere's an interesting debate going on at Bruce Gerencser's blog: The Way Forward. Part of me has been enjoying watching Bruce's readers point out to some roving internet Pastor his incorrect conclusions. Gives me something to do while I'm stuck with my right leg enrobed in a brace, propped up and covered with it's own winter wonderland of ice in a bag. Stillness is so boring.One of Bruce's critics, Pastor Bob, is very busy painting all of the readers and commenters with a paint roller dipped in Sherwin William's newest shade - "Atheist" and issuing 'Come To Jesuses' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Give or it Will be Ripped From You?

by Bambi from the blog In The Nursery of the Nation - Motherhood and the Paradox of Dying to Live There are days of motherhood, long seasons even, that are quite laborious.  And if you are like me, motherhood brought about the first time you were ever really tested in this matter of laying down your life.  Took me a long time to realize that the things motherhood took from me while I was still resentful of it, was not true sacrifice. I would keep a mental tally of just how many bottoms I wiped, how many corrections I had given and just how long it took me to get school done that day. How many … [Read more...]

Church Statistics and Abuse

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [trigger warning for child sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence] I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but from the reading I’ve been doing, sometime in the last 30 or so years there’s been a subtle shift in how churches talk about growth. What my reading tells me is that this is at least somewhat connected to the rise of the “mega church,” with it becoming impossible for pastoral staffs to simply look around their churches and understand who their congregation is. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Super Bowl Commercials Satan’s Plan?

From various Youtube accounts posted here as more as a cautionary tale to where extreme fundamentalism can lead your mind..... … [Read more...]

ATI’s Bill Gothard Sexually Harrassed ATI Workers?

by CaluluFor the past few days I've been reading through the accounts by ladies who'd worked with Bill Gothard, ATI's founder and venerated head, over at Recovered Grace. They all give very similar versions of their time with Bill, being inappropriately touched, and treated with a creepy flirtatiousness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defending The Pearls and “To Train Up a Child”?

by Paige Coleman of Delivering Women From the Snares of Death blog - Pearls Before SwineFor those of you who left nasty comments online, please be adequately informed before you raise your voice in protest. Humbly consider what you say to your children and what you say to others.  If you call for the banning of “To Train up a Child” because of the actions of those who read it, then by following your own logic, I could call for the banning of the examiner’s website.  After all, the author of the article clearly provoked you to anger.  Let’s blame him instead of you!  If Michael Pearl is responsible for Carri Williams’ anger, then the examiner (sic) is responsible for yours. … [Read more...]

Happy New Year! – Open Thread

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeFor the last few weeks I've been waiting with baited breath for CBN's Pat Robertson to make his yearly announcement claiming that God told him what to expect in the coming year. Pat's obviously falling down on the job since he's been largely silent on 2014. Or perhaps his handlers are realizing how insane he's started to sound in the last few years.Let us revisit what he said in December 2012 in regards to 2013's happenings.... … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Flippantly Avoiding Babies?

by Kelly of Generation Cedar - Are You Going to Have More Babies?Make sure you visit the original article to read the conversation between the author and her five year old daughter. Just like my daughter counsels women each week who are contemplating abortion, urging them to consider that the life inside them is no mistake and is depending on them to give it a … [Read more...]