Forced To Believe In Jesus or How Not To Do A Salvation Call

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by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightTrigger Warning for spiritual abuse and manipulationThere's an interesting debate going on at Bruce Gerencser's blog: The Way Forward. Part of me has been enjoying watching Bruce's readers point out to some roving internet Pastor his incorrect conclusions. Gives me something to do while I'm stuck with my right leg enrobed in a brace, propped up and covered with it's own winter wonderland of ice in a bag. Stillness is so boring.One of Bruce's critics, Pastor Bob, is very busy painting all of the readers and commenters with a paint roller dipped in Sherwin William's newest shade - "Atheist" and issuing 'Come To Jesuses' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Give or it Will be Ripped From You?

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by Bambi from the blog In The Nursery of the Nation - Motherhood and the Paradox of Dying to Live There are days of motherhood, long seasons even, that are quite laborious.  And if you are like me, motherhood brought about the first time you were ever really tested in this matter of laying down your life.  Took me a long time to realize that the things motherhood took from me while I was still resentful of it, was not true sacrifice. I would keep a mental tally of just how many bottoms I wiped, how many corrections I had given and just how long it took me to get school done that day. How many … [Read more...]

Why miscarriage matters when you’re pro-life

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From the blog The Lewis Note written by Rachel Lewis(Editors note: Saw this piece today and realized that there are many here who have suffered the pain of a lost pregnancy and likely were treated poorly by their brothers and sisters in Christ during that terrible time. Sharing here not because of the 'pro-life' aspect, but more towards helping people heal. Sometimes Christians get it more right than wrong, this is one of those pieces. I'm taking the author at her word that it is alright to share this.)Back in my former life, I was a proofreader. … [Read more...]

Church Statistics and Abuse

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [trigger warning for child sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence] I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but from the reading I’ve been doing, sometime in the last 30 or so years there’s been a subtle shift in how churches talk about growth. What my reading tells me is that this is at least somewhat connected to the rise of the “mega church,” with it becoming impossible for pastoral staffs to simply look around their churches and understand who their congregation is. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Super Bowl Commercials Satan’s Plan?

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From various Youtube accounts posted here as more as a cautionary tale to where extreme fundamentalism can lead your mind..... … [Read more...]

ATI’s Bill Gothard Sexually Harrassed ATI Workers?

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by CaluluFor the past few days I've been reading through the accounts by ladies who'd worked with Bill Gothard, ATI's founder and venerated head, over at Recovered Grace. They all give very similar versions of their time with Bill, being inappropriately touched, and treated with a creepy flirtatiousness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defending The Pearls and “To Train Up a Child”?

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by Paige Coleman of Delivering Women From the Snares of Death blog - Pearls Before SwineFor those of you who left nasty comments online, please be adequately informed before you raise your voice in protest. Humbly consider what you say to your children and what you say to others.  If you call for the banning of “To Train up a Child” because of the actions of those who read it, then by following your own logic, I could call for the banning of the examiner’s website.  After all, the author of the article clearly provoked you to anger.  Let’s blame him instead of you!  If Michael Pearl is responsible for Carri Williams’ anger, then the examiner (sic) is responsible for yours. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Pick a Girl with Low Self-Esteem (Yes Really)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 140-141 In the coming pages, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of your children, etc. These are important and necessary, but the buck always stops right here at the action word reverence. A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have terrible hair, not cook so well, be a little lazy and dumb, and not be one bit pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is w … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardFirst of all, churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse they often: … [Read more...]


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