Church Statistics and Abuse

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [trigger warning for child sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence] I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but from the reading I’ve been doing, sometime in the last 30 or so years there’s been a subtle shift in how churches talk about growth. What my reading tells me is that this is at least somewhat connected to the rise of the “mega church,” with it becoming impossible for pastoral staffs to simply look around their churches and understand who their congregation is. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Super Bowl Commercials Satan’s Plan?

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From various Youtube accounts posted here as more as a cautionary tale to where extreme fundamentalism can lead your mind..... … [Read more...]

ATI’s Bill Gothard Sexually Harrassed ATI Workers?

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by CaluluFor the past few days I've been reading through the accounts by ladies who'd worked with Bill Gothard, ATI's founder and venerated head, over at Recovered Grace. They all give very similar versions of their time with Bill, being inappropriately touched, and treated with a creepy flirtatiousness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defending The Pearls and “To Train Up a Child”?

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by Paige Coleman of Delivering Women From the Snares of Death blog - Pearls Before SwineFor those of you who left nasty comments online, please be adequately informed before you raise your voice in protest. Humbly consider what you say to your children and what you say to others.  If you call for the banning of “To Train up a Child” because of the actions of those who read it, then by following your own logic, I could call for the banning of the examiner’s website.  After all, the author of the article clearly provoked you to anger.  Let’s blame him instead of you!  If Michael Pearl is responsible for Carri Williams’ anger, then the examiner (sic) is responsible for yours. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Pick a Girl with Low Self-Esteem (Yes Really)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 140-141 In the coming pages, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of your children, etc. These are important and necessary, but the buck always stops right here at the action word reverence. A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have terrible hair, not cook so well, be a little lazy and dumb, and not be one bit pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is w … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardFirst of all, churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse they often: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Flippantly Avoiding Babies?

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by Kelly of Generation Cedar - Are You Going to Have More Babies?Make sure you visit the original article to read the conversation between the author and her five year old daughter. Just like my daughter counsels women each week who are contemplating abortion, urging them to consider that the life inside them is no mistake and is depending on them to give it a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mental Illness is Self Focus?

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by John Piper from desiring God - 10 Resolutions for Mental Health That night Dr. Kilby had a pastoral heart and a poet’s eye. He pled with us to stop seeking mental health in the mirror of self-analysis, but instead to drink in the remedies of God in nature. He was not naïve. He knew of sin. He knew of the necessity of redemption in Christ. But he would have said that Christ purchased new eyes for us as well as new hearts. His plea was that we stop being unamazed by the strange glory of ordinary things. He ended that lecture in 1976 with a list of resolutions. As a tribute to my teacher and a blessing to your soul, I offer them for your joy. … [Read more...]

Mental Health – From Shame to Seeking Help, Part 7: Lana Hobbs The Brave

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by Lana Hobbs cross posted from Homeschoolers AnonymousHA note: This series is reprinted with permission from Lana Hobbs’ blog, Lana Hobbs the Brave. Lana describes herself as “an aspiring writer and a former religious fundamentalist” who currently identifies as “post-Christian.” She was homeschooled in junior high and highschool. Part Seven of this series was originally published on June 19, 2013.Part Seven: Lana Hobbs the Brave This is the final part of my story. For the introduction and the list of all previous posts -and any recap posts I might do – see here.  Trigger Warning for descriptions of suicidal thoughts. After Christmas 2012, which was more stressful than usual due to … [Read more...]


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