Part 6: Building on Emotional Self Regulation – Adventures in Ambiguity

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace In the previous post, we explored the challenge of developing a healthy sense of personal power that we encounter when we exit a high demand group. How on earth can we get through life with a faulty set of coping tools, where do we go to learn them, and how can we figure out how to be balanced when all we've seen modeled for us is extremes of power and of emotion?   This topic is a huge one, but a person can do a lot of good work on their own to develop healthy Emotional Self-Regulation after exiting.REMEMBER:  As with all things that make generalizations about groups of people, if this doesn't describe your experience after … [Read more...]

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How Dysfunctional Parents Siphon Resources Back from a Child, Depriving them of Healthy Self-Development

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization” All images originals from Under Much More Grace. In the previous post, we discussed how children lack internal resources which the parent provides to them so that they can develop their own sense of self, internal peace and what many authors describe as a sense of abundance. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Panic Attacks Happen Because You Don’t Trust God?

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by Savabrown14 from Loved By I Am - An Anxious HeartEditor's note: This is much the same as the poison being spread by Tim LaHaye in his book "How To Win Over Depression" that SASBN member Samantha Field was reviewing. Instead of admitting or realizing that anxiety, fear and panic can happen because of circumstances or even the chemical load in your own brain and getting professional help dealing with your feelings it's always 'You are not trusting God.' Yeah I am, I'm trusting God created psychologists and therapists plus medicine if it's needed. How is that wrong? … [Read more...]

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Post-Cult Trauma Syndrome

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAfter exiting a cult, an individual may experience a period of intense and often conflicting emotions. She or he may feel relief to be out of the group, but also may feel grief over the loss of positive elements in the cult, such as friendships, a sense of belonging or the feeling of personal worth generated by the group's stated ideals or mission. The emotional upheaval of the period is often characterized by "post- cult trauma syndrome": … [Read more...]

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“How To Win Over Depression” review: 192 – 211

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Thankfully, I think we only have this week and next week and then we’ll be done with this book. One of my biggest complaints today is that this book wasn’t edited– only proofread. There’s not a lot of development to this book, and Tim has a tendency to repeat himself. This chapter– “Ten Steps to Victory Over Depression”– barely contributes anything new to the book. … [Read more...]

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“How To Win Over Depression” – review – 137 – 159

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Books like this make it almost impossible for me to believe that there’s any meaningful difference between fundamentalism and more mainstream evangelicalism. Theologically there’s no real difference that I’ve ever been able to find, and all the differences I can find are surface trappings. In my view, fundamentalism and evangelicalism are on a sliding scale of how much modern culture they’re willing to adapt; fundamentalists are just stuck in the 60s while evangelicals are stuck in the 90s. … [Read more...]

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“How To Win Over Depresson” – review – 113 – 136

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons For new readers: this post is part of a regular blog feature, where I read through influential books on Christian living. The beginning of the series covering Tim LaHaye’s How to Win Over Depression is here; you can also read through my series on Helen Andelin’s Fascinating Womanhood, John and Stasi Eldredge’s Captivating, Mark and Grace Driscoll’s Real Marriage, and Rob and Kristin Bell’s Zimzum of Love. ~~~~~~~~~ These two chapters were repetitive, so I’m going to do my best not to rehash things I’ve already commented on. A few things jumped out to me on this reading of “How to Overcome Self-Pity,” especially one thing in … [Read more...]

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So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?: PTSD – I am a Living Wound

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Lisa Kerr from My Cult Life and the Lisa Kerr blog put up a blog posting a few weeks ago about a book excerpt in Vanity Fair magazine's most current issue.The book that is being featured in that issue is Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis: The Untold Story by Barbara Learning. It will be published within the month and can be pre-ordered at Amazon right now. … [Read more...]

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What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Outbreeding ‘Others’ to Have a Wholely White Christian Nation

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by Mary Pride from her book The Way Home page 80 - Evangelism Through Reproduction We Christians can sometimes be inconsistent. We'd fight and scream if someone tried to stamp out our evangelistic efforts....Let's say that Christians are 20 percent of the US population. If each Christian family had six children, and the humanists, feminists, and others kept on having an average of one.....then in twenty years there would be sixty of us for every forty of them. In forty years, 90 percent of America would be Christian! That is without outside evangelism. All we'd have to do would be to have children and raise them for Christ... [T]hen in two generations...we would be over 40 percent of the … [Read more...]

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