Church Statistics and Abuse

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [trigger warning for child sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence] I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but from the reading I’ve been doing, sometime in the last 30 or so years there’s been a subtle shift in how churches talk about growth. What my reading tells me is that this is at least somewhat connected to the rise of the “mega church,” with it becoming impossible for pastoral staffs to simply look around their churches and understand who their congregation is. … [Read more...]

ATI’s Bill Gothard Sexually Harrassed ATI Workers?

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by CaluluFor the past few days I've been reading through the accounts by ladies who'd worked with Bill Gothard, ATI's founder and venerated head, over at Recovered Grace. They all give very similar versions of their time with Bill, being inappropriately touched, and treated with a creepy flirtatiousness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Defending The Pearls and “To Train Up a Child”?

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by Paige Coleman of Delivering Women From the Snares of Death blog - Pearls Before SwineFor those of you who left nasty comments online, please be adequately informed before you raise your voice in protest. Humbly consider what you say to your children and what you say to others.  If you call for the banning of “To Train up a Child” because of the actions of those who read it, then by following your own logic, I could call for the banning of the examiner’s website.  After all, the author of the article clearly provoked you to anger.  Let’s blame him instead of you!  If Michael Pearl is responsible for Carri Williams’ anger, then the examiner (sic) is responsible for yours. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Pick a Girl with Low Self-Esteem (Yes Really)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 140-141 In the coming pages, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of your children, etc. These are important and necessary, but the buck always stops right here at the action word reverence. A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have terrible hair, not cook so well, be a little lazy and dumb, and not be one bit pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is w … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

Dialogue, Privilege, and the Homeschool Debate

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by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyEvents of late have got me thinking about a lot of things, including sex ed, my relationship to popular culture and society, and how advocacy groups work, among other things. It made me think in a broader sense about my life as well, where I came from and where I am going. I’ve traversed a lot of ground. Enough to make my head spin, really, and like Lana Hope saying there is no pure narrative, I know I don’t have answers to all that stuff and I find myself growing more comfortable with not knowing, with moving forward based on sense and feel, not proscriptive mandates on how to live life. It is freeing. … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardFirst of all, churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse they often: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Flippantly Avoiding Babies?

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by Kelly of Generation Cedar - Are You Going to Have More Babies?Make sure you visit the original article to read the conversation between the author and her five year old daughter. Just like my daughter counsels women each week who are contemplating abortion, urging them to consider that the life inside them is no mistake and is depending on them to give it a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Protect Your Womb?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Protect Your Womb!Satan hates the womb. He knew that the Messiah, the Savior of the world, would come through the womb of a woman, the one who would destroy his head. He knows it is through the womb of the woman that the “godly seed” still comes to destroy his works. Satan comes to "steal, kill and destroy." His attack is upon the womb through a number of areas: … [Read more...]

Pastor Rapes Away the Gay and Gets By With It

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNo commentary from me. The story from Addicting Info says it all: <A HREF="http://ws.amazon.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&MarketPlace=US&ID=V20070822%2FUS%2Ffamiliesthatflou%2F8010%2F3a66ffe9-ddd0-4d6b-8d9b-5eebb6c82db3&Operation=NoScript">Amazon.com Widgets</A>No commentary from me. The story from Addicting Info says it all: By now, we’ve all undoubtedly heard of and been outraged by a Montana judge sentencing a former teacher to a mere 30 days in prison for raping one of his female students. But have you heard of the Iowa youth pastor who is walking free after confessing to raping boys to “ … [Read more...]


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