What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marital Sexual Consent Isn’t Real?

by Free Northerner from his blog Free Northerner- Marital Consent Marriage is a a contract between two people, in which love, of which sex is an implied and fundamental component, is promised to the other. This contract is vowed for life and is binding for life.With sex being so vowed to the other, sexual consent is given for life by contract. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

by Jennifer Tritle at Chalcedon.edu and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Dysfunctional Personalities

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI found this list of what the likely personality flaws children of alcoholics develop and it struck me that the list isn't just about alcoholism. It could apply to many different types of dysfunction, people raised in extreme religion, with toxic parents, workaholics, drug addicts, whatever. It works for a laundry list of dysfunction. … [Read more...]

Book Review – 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon Hickmon

by Suzanne Titkemeyer  cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightBook Review: 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon HickmonA good lesson for me is to never judge a book by its cover, literally.Before I start my review I have to confess that when '13:24' first came to my attention I had no interest in reading it, not even with Vyckie Garrison of NLQ's recommendation. I took one look at the cover, saw the shaggy-haired heavy metal lead singer and the animal skull above and decided this book wasn't something I'd be interested in. I knew there would be descriptions of physical and spiritual abuse and figured I was not going there again because this book would trigger me … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The ‘Me’ Monster Mom?

by Erin Harrison from No Greater Joy Magazine - The 'ME' Monster Later, I met this man, a guy who was working with Mark on a job. Something drew me to him. He looked at me and told me, even as I smiled, that there was a sadness in my eyes. It was like a gift. I opened up to this person I did not even know, and he told me how sinful I was. Me? Sinful? I was sinned against as an innocent child. I was rejected by nasty people. I was hurt and in pain. How could I be to blame in this? At first it made me angry. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Abuser?

from Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview - What Should an Abused Spouse Do?Trigger warning for harmful advice. The posting at Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview has a very triggering photograph of abuse.My suggestion is that you tell your husband that you want to be married to him, and that your goal is reconciliation, but that you are no longer willing to live under abuse. He has a choice to make. He needs to seek help, counseling and accountability through a local … [Read more...]

Abusive Child Discipline Advice?

One of the friends of NLQ wrote a letter asking a certain husband and wife duo who is absolutely beloved by the homeschooling Evangelical world for their advice on raising good Christian children who never rebel. He never identifies exactly who they are, but their identity is obvious.Here's his original query: … [Read more...]

Patriarchal Ideas in Modern Culture: Game of Thrones and Sexual Consent

by Suzanne TitkemeyerHow can we expect the ideas of sexual consent by women to be understood by people such as Chris Jeub when patriarchal fundamentalist ideas of rape and purity culture have been adopted by many way, way outside of the patriarchal world. Not only adopted but embraced, promoted, explained away.This week there has been quite a discussion going on in the blogsphere on the idea of sexual consent because of last Sunday's episode of "Game of Thrones" and the reaction of the writer and director over the outcry over the sexual encounter shown between two of the main characters. … [Read more...]

Cults, Christianity, Toxic Beliefs and Health

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI recently separated from a religious cult that I grew up in. During the time I was questioning the beliefs of this cult, I realized that many of these beliefs unfortunately are also foundational beliefs in modern day evangelical Christianity as well. So I ended up leaving not only the cult, but Christianity also. … [Read more...]


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