Jack Schaap: Isolated Incident or the One That Got Caught?

October 13, 2012 By 41 Comments
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by Calulu I haven’t updated NLQ much with the latest on Jack Schaap and his ongoing legal confloption. Yesterday I was perusing the news on Jack Schaap, the former pastor of the First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana to see what had gone down on his plea arraignment on September 27, 2012. Schaap not only [...]

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Holy Terror

October 12, 2012 By 1 Comment

by Mari I like to tell people that I’m a quarter Lutheran. But I’m really not. I tell people that because it helps them to stay focused on the story — because when someone makes a statement that ridiculous and silly, naturally, everybody’s going to start asking questions. When I was a little kid, we [...]

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Charlie Fuqua says Death Penalty an Option for Rebellious Children

October 11, 2012 By 19 Comments

by Bruce Gerencser Charlie Fuqua, Republican candidate for the Arkansas House of Representatives, supports the death penalty for rebellious children. Fuqua wrote: The maintenance of civil order in society rests on the foundation of family discipline. Therefore, a child who disrespects his parents must be permanently removed from society in a way that gives an [...]

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Millipede Part 30 – How Did I Get Here Part 1

October 10, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Millipede How Did I get here? In the Talking Heads song “Once in a lifetime”, lead singer David Byrne echoes this very line. This lyric came to me many a time as I withdrew from Patriarchal fundamentalism. Like a Nautilus Shell rising to the ocean surface, my ascent was marked with the emptying of [...]

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Toddlerhood: Part 3 – Accidents

October 9, 2012 By 3 Comments
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by Mari Accidents I was an accident-prone child. When I was somewhere between two and 3 years old, I had my first ER experience. I had been playing with an older cousin who was holding me by the arms and spinning me around in circles. It was fun. Lots of fun. I imagine myself all [...]

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