Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Protector

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter is devoted to the second “masculine need”: “a man needs to function, feel needed, and excel women as a protector.” A man being a protector is probably one of the more foundational concepts about men in conservative religious environments– it is most especially true where patriarchy and complementarianism are fiercely held. It appears in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. … [Read more...]

The Evangelical Closet

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMost homes and apartments have closets. We use closets to store things, keep things out of sight, and to maintain order.  Metaphorically, a closet is a state or condition of secrecy, privacy, or obscurity.A few years back my family and I lived in Yuma, Arizona. We lived in a beautiful home, the largest home we have ever lived in. (twice the size our present house) The … [Read more...]

Sneaky Subconscious

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI've  been experiencing some shifts lately, and my eyes keep opening up to new breakthroughs. Some with my subconscious. It's completely exciting for me. Somewhat painful. I feel like things are ripping on the inside of me. In a good way. I feel somewhat more balanced now than I used to be. I'm getting used to the constant changes in my perspectives. I feel like I accept things more. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Sex a Need?

by Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait - Why We Shouldn't be Afraid of Sex Sex is a need. Now may will object to this idea, immediately comparing sex to other needs such as food, air, or water.  ”Sex is not a need,” they will cry.But not all needs lead one to die if you don’t get them. Let’s look at how sex is a need: … [Read more...]

When Other Daughters and Sons of Patriarchy Are Trapped

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWith all the ex-conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowdays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has viritually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends still trapped in the ideology that I constantly feel the tension with old friends and old hangouts.  Here’s just a few  very recent encounters I had with a few graduates … [Read more...]

Thank You, Dad

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixDad,Thank you for showing me who I am not.Age fiveYou beat me with a rod because I laughed when my baby brother shot peas out of his mouth and laughed. My baby brother wasn't obeying you when told to eat neatly, and you said he was old enough to have the devil beat out of him. You said the next one who laughed when my baby brother spit peas onto his high chair would get the rod. The next one was me. So you beat me with a wooden rod. … [Read more...]

Voices of Sister-Moms: Mary’s Story

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming Worldly(Editor's note: This is the final post in the Voices of Sister-Moms series. You can read more of Mary's story over at Homeschoolers Anonymous)So I’ve been reading the articles this last week about the sister-moms and they have been hitting home. I am one of those sister-moms. I am the 2nd oldest of eight and the oldest girl.  Most of the time I felt like the oldest because my older brother wasn’t in the picture much for various reasons.  But anyway, in the Quiverfull movement, there is a world of difference being a boy in the family versus a girl.  I don’t really feel like going into my story in this document, especially as … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay in the Abuse?

by Stacy McDonald of Ladies Against Feminism and Your Sacred Calling - Persecution from...Christians? Whether persecution comes from strangers, extended family, the government, neighbors, an unsaved spouse, even church family or fellow homeschoolers, know that conflict will come when you attempt to live out Christ without compromise. Be prepared—but also be prepared to praise Him through it. As you remain faithful, God will work mightily in the midst of your trial. And, if you are afraid that you won’t be faithful, don’t worry! Ask Him and He will create in you a faithful heart, so that He may do that great work in and through you. … [Read more...]

Iron Sharpeneth Iron: Part 2

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Growing up, I received some very specific messages about relationships and friendships. For many Christians, evangelicals in particular, who you choose for your friends is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. Aside from the idea that men and women are not allowed to be friends (which is so large a concept it’s almost a completely separate issue), we’re given a set of guidelines for how we initiate and structure all of our friendships. … [Read more...]

Iron Sharpeneth Iron, Part One

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons “I’m really worried about her.” I was laying in my bed, staring up at my ceiling, envisioning all the different situations one of my dearest friends could find herself in, now that she was living in the downtown of a big city, far away from people she knew and the community she’d grown up in. Handsome was on the phone, listening to my concerns. … [Read more...]