So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Dysfunctional Personalities

Children of Alcoholics

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI found this list of what the likely personality flaws children of alcoholics develop and it struck me that the list isn't just about alcoholism. It could apply to many different types of dysfunction, people raised in extreme religion, with toxic parents, workaholics, drug addicts, whatever. It works for a laundry list of dysfunction. … [Read more...]

Why Eric Jackson Confessed to Raping His Sister

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardPlease read We Believe Their Repentance is Genuine, Pastor Says of Brothers Who Raped Sister, for context.Scott Brown, one of the elders at Hope Baptist Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina, church home to 2 of the 6 brothers accused of repeatedly raping their sister over an 8 year period, recently shared the reason the Eric Jackson confessed. In a blog post titled Eric Jackson and the Power of the Gospel Brown wrote: … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismSo I’m going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard’s Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled “Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship” (pages 160—164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific “phases.” … [Read more...]

Gender Transition: Two Years Later

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by Melissa from her blog Permission to LiveA guest post written by my wife HaleyLast week marked the two year anniversary of when I started hormone replacement therapy for transitioning my physical body to female. My transition didn’t start with hormones, due to challenges and an involved process to get access to hormones, many other transition milestones had already happened before that day.  I was already full time and out to the world as transgender in March 2012. I had changed my name legally the previous October. … [Read more...]

Book Review – 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon Hickmon

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer  cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightBook Review: 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon HickmonA good lesson for me is to never judge a book by its cover, literally.Before I start my review I have to confess that when '13:24' first came to my attention I had no interest in reading it, not even with Vyckie Garrison of NLQ's recommendation. I took one look at the cover, saw the shaggy-haired heavy metal lead singer and the animal skull above and decided this book wasn't something I'd be interested in. I knew there would be descriptions of physical and spiritual abuse and figured I was not going there again because this book would trigger me … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – What Healthy Belief in God is Not

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From Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome's Facebook pageHere are five quick and easy ways to determine if what you’re hearing really has anything to do with God:If it produces fear, it doesn’t. If it is self-diminishing, it doesn’t. If it motivates hate, it doesn’t.If it produces shame, it doesn’t.If it robs you of freedom, it doesn’t.Any belief in God cannot be true if it promotes... … [Read more...]

Patriarchy in Homeschool Culture

This is what "The Patriarchy" looks like in my head

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I grew up in a subculture of evangelical Christianity that’s known as “Christian Patriarchy,” which is what the people who preach and teach this “lifestyle” un-ironically call it. I was also peripherally a part of the Quiverful and Stay-at-Home-Daughters movements, which are all separate things. A family can be Quiverful without preaching Christian Patriarchy or requiring daughters to remain at home until marriage, for example. … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismGrowing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself.But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]

Part 5: Abuse Survey

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalPart 5 - Abuse SurveyLate last year, I answered an online survey about spiritual abuse. I would like to share some of those questions and answers here, hoping it will give you a better picture of where I am up to in my journey. … [Read more...]

Abusive Child Discipline Advice?

When you Google 'Spanking Paddle' most of the images are sexualized?

One of the friends of NLQ wrote a letter asking a certain husband and wife duo who is absolutely beloved by the homeschooling Evangelical world for their advice on raising good Christian children who never rebel. He never identifies exactly who they are, but their identity is obvious.Here's his original query: … [Read more...]


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