Millipede – Part 34 How Did I Get Here Part 5

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by MillipedeThe woman traveling the road to Patriarchy has a large pit in front of her. She doesn't know it, although at this point in the game, she is starting to get little hints of the not so nice side of patriarchy. She's finding out that she must give up rights, a few here and there, but as she "grows in the Faith" she learns that it is just the start. there is a long list of rights and expectations … [Read more...]

Things I Have Learned Not to Fear

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by Kristen RosserWhen I was a young Christian in charismatic evangelicalism (Assemblies of God, followed by Maranatha Campus Ministries), 2 Timothy 2:7 was frequently preached:"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and a sound mind."Other verses emphasized the point:"For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption. . . "  Romans 8:15. … [Read more...]

Rethinking Birth Control & Abortion

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by CaluluA few days ago our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network member Libby Anne of Love, Joy, Feminism wrote a compelling post called 'How I Lost Faith in the "Pro Life" Movement'. She laid out how she'd gone from a staunch member of the Pro Life movement to a Progressive Pro Choice position over the years. The evidence she presents shows that increased access to birth control reduces the abortion rates. Banning abortion doesn't do any good towards reducing the number of abortions either.I can see that. In my Quiverfull years I was a crisis phone line volunteer for a pro life clinic.  I saw statistics that indicated that abortion numbers actually fell during the years it's been … [Read more...]

Crampin’ My Style

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by MariA few days after my spiritual epiphany, my three brothers and I received brand new, leather-bound King James Version Bibles for Christmas.On New Years’ Day, we began our annual tradition of reading through the entire Bible in 365 days.We were 11, 9, 7 and 5 years of age.This ritual consisted of all of us sitting in a circle and taking turns reading 2 verses each until the assigned passages were finished.I don’t know how anybody else felt about this new development, but personally, I hated it. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t like reading the Bible as it was that I hated that it was so ritualistic and it kept us from doing “kid” stuff.My brothers and I liked to li … [Read more...]

Fear-Based Parenting

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by Kristen Rosser aka KRWordgazerLatebloomer at Past Tense Present Progressive is blogging about Reb Bradley's book Child Training Tips.  Calulu at Roadkill on the Information Superhighway is blogging about Michael and Debbi Pearl's To Train Up a Child.  I'd like to chime in today with some thoughts about the method of child rearing which the two books share: they call it "Biblical parenting" or "Bible-based child training," but it bears no resemblance to the way Jesus spoke of or treated children.  Instead, it takes a few proof texts (mostly from Proverbs) and builds an entire harsh, repressive and unjust regime out of them.This is not something I can remain silent about. It goes … [Read more...]

Millipede Part 32 How Did I Get Here? Part 3

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by MillipedeIn my case, the path started when I became involved in various "patriot" groups.Ironically, I was at first very careful to weed out the chauvinists and the misogynists. How women were viewed and treated was a make or break issue with me. My husband at the time was like most "average" guys meaning that he believed(or claimed to) gender equality to some degree. As in my previous experience, it was a mixed bag, some people were great, but sure enough we ran into a few rabid patriarchs. I remember one man, a preacher saying that women who were serving in the army ought to be ashamed of themselves and should instead, be at home changing diapers. Afterwords, my husband and I … [Read more...]

Why I Find Perverse Pleasure in the Sexual Peccadilloes of Evangelical Leaders

by Bruce GerencserI am quite indifferent to the sexual peccadillos of others. What consenting adults do sexually is none of my business. I think so-called sexual “sins” like adultery and fornication find their foundation in the Bible and I reject the Bible as a moral or ethical standard.We are sexual creatures. Desiring to have sex is as much a part of who we are as eating and drinking. Sexual activity, regardless of orientation, is normal and it not surprising when sexual activity overflows the banks of the Christian moral river.It doesn’t surprise me that Dinesh D’Souza had sex with a woman other than his wife. Recent reports say that not only was D’Souza committing what his Chr … [Read more...]

Millipede Part 30 – How Did I Get Here Part 1

by MillipedeHow Did I get here?In the Talking Heads song "Once in a lifetime", lead singer David Byrne echoes this very line. This lyric came to me many a time as I withdrew from Patriarchal fundamentalism. Like a Nautilus Shell rising to the ocean surface, my ascent was marked with the emptying of successive chambers; first I decided to take control of my future by going back to work, soon I no longer confined myself to skirts and dresses in public. Sometime between the first step and the final exit, I went from rebelling against what I saw as "extreme patriarchy" to questioning the belief itself.Now that I am out-out of the Christian Patriarchy (but not Christianity itself), … [Read more...]

The Myth of Teenage Rebellion

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by LatebloomerSometimes, as my toddler and I cuddle together to read books on the couch, I can't help but imagine what our relationship might be like when he becomes a teenager.  On some days, I dread it like a slowly-approaching disaster.  On other days, I feel a sense of hope that, as I deal with my own issues, I'll be able to give him something better than I experienced.   I'm confronting my old ideas about teenagers head on, and replacing them with healthier and more accurate ideas.Growing up in fundamentalist homeschooling circles, I heard a lot about "Biblical" parenting--extreme parental authority enforced through potentially abusive levels of spanking.  Because it was "Bi … [Read more...]

Mama’s Choice – Part 7: Free Agents

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by Vyckie Garrison Recently I wrote this to my atheist uncle, Ron:So here's a big question for you: do you believe in free will? I've been thinking a lot about it lately, I can't really believe we do have free will. It seems to me that so much of our decision-making is influenced by circumstances completely beyond our control - circumstances which we did not choose. Plus - I don't know anyone who has managed to actually carry out all their good intentions to live a good life with honesty and integrity. We all want to live well - but things happen and we end up somewhere near the opposite of what we planned.For example - I really and truly did not want to have any … [Read more...]


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