Victims and Abusers and Why Church is Not Safe

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons[trigger warning for abuse] If you follow me on twitter, you might have noticed that I watched My Fair Lady this past weekend, one of my favorite movies from when I was younger, but a movie I haven’t seen in years. And while I enjoyed the nostalgia and singing all the songs again, it was not an entirely pleasant experience and I probably won’t watch it again. Watching Professor Higgins, listening to him sing “Let a Woman in Your Life,” realizing that he never uses Eliza’s name and instead prefers to call her wretch, insect, and baggage, and understanding for the first time that Professor Higgins is an abuser . . . … [Read more...]

Teenage Brides and Titus 2 Women of the Homeschool Apostates

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyToday the big American Prospect “Homeschool Apostates” story came out. A number of us have been working with Kathryn Joyce for some time on the issue and so while I only had a short segment in it, an interview on social awkwardness as a formative experience, the piece is the most comprehensive one to exist on this advocacy work I am helping spearhead as of yet, and it really highlights the issues in a way that I find to be deeply meaningful and sincerely hope will help raise awareness and bring about improvement. … [Read more...]

The Devil’s Theology: Seven Lies From Hell

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaThe pastor begins Bible study with a short prayer and immediately dives into his notes. I can sense the eagerness in his voice. The Lord is really going to speak to us through this message, he says. “When I started writing out what I wanted to say, it was like the Spirit just downloaded the information into my brain. I was the one holding the pen, but God was the one writing.” … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: Pandora’s Box

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons  I’m going to be honest: I have no idea what to do with this chapter. None. So, for today’s post, I’m going to quote a some larger portions, in their entirety, add some of my concerns, and see what you all think of what she says.  In a Pandora’s Box reaction, instead of the man responding with love and tenderness, he becomes angry and pours out hostile feelings toward his wife. Why does he do this? … [Read more...]

Vision Forum Inc. – The ‘For Profit’ VF is Closing!

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rape...And so things get a bit more grim for the Phillips.There's been no official word on the closing of the incorporated for profit side of Vision Forum closing after Doug Phillips stepped down after admitting his affair and the closing of the ministry side of Vision Forum, but it looks like that is indeed what is happening. … [Read more...]

John Piper’s Defense of the Genocidal Christian God

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardThere are many reasons people choose to leave Christianity. Contrary to what apologists for Christianity suggest, deconversion stories have many elements and are rarely the same. That said, there are four elements that show up in most deconversion stories:The existence of evil The existence of suffering God acting contrary to the commands he gives people God commanding people to act contrary to the commands he gives to people … [Read more...]

Seven Signs of Spiritual Abuse

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking Llama(Please welcome Boze to NLQ and the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! He's an awesome addition!)For about five years during and after college I was trapped in a dangerous Charismatic religious community. Living in a spiritually abusive environment is like a nightmare that you can’t wake out of. It can be hard to tell right from wrong, left from right. The people you trust the most could betray you at … [Read more...]

Happy Thanksgiving: Duties, Rights and Privileges

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeThe quotes and theology I stumble across as part of my posting and moderator duties at No Longer Quivering sometimes make me laugh, but many times I'm more likely to drop my full coffee cup in shock or dismay, just like the graphic of a spilled coffee cup I use for the Quoting Quiverfull feature. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]


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