Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

The Week the Cracker Quacked: The Duck Dynasty Saga

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMillions of Evangelical Christians are in an uproar over A&E suspending Duck Dynasty star Phil Robertson over his homophobic, racist remarks made in a recent GQ magazine interview.  Facebook, Twitter, and the Sunday pulpit have been awash in defenses of Phil Robertson’s right to publicly state what he believes about homosexuality and the Jim Crow days of the South.  I thought I would use this post to summarize the various articles, news reports, and blog posts about Phil Robertson and Duck Dynasty: … [Read more...]

An Average Homeschooler: Introduction

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  [me, the first year I was homeschooled]   I’ve been avoiding writing about this. Even once I started planning out the series, I debated with myself for weeks over whether or not I wanted to write it out– and then post it. I’ve talked a lot about some of the other aspects of growing up in fundamentalism, but I’ve avoided talking about my experience with homeschooling for a few reasons. I’ve touched on it a few times, and I’ve even written posts for Homeschoolers Anonymous and for Leaving Fundamentalism. Even as I wrote those posts, I was hesitant about sharing them here, although I did eventually. … [Read more...]

Dude, Seriously? – Answering Kevin Swanson

 by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeRecently Kevin Swanson, radio babbler and righteous rabblerouser against all things not homeschooling fundamentalist Biblical patriarchy has been making more of an ass out of himself than usual. It's not merely due to the fact that he has a new book to flog about and promote by calling everyone that doesn't agree with him an 'Apostate', a title that is also a big part of the title of his new book. Oh no, Kevin seems to be off the internet deep end this week. … [Read more...]

Evangelicals Determined to Hang on to Their Wrathful God

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardCollin Hansen, of The Gospel Coalition, recently wrote a post about the controversy surrounding the Presbyterian Church USA wanting to change  the lyrics of the modern hymn Christ Alone.  In the article, Hansen interviews Keith Getty, one of the writers of the song: Last summer the modern hymn “In Christ Alone” made headlines for its lyrical references to the wrath of God and atonement theology. A hymn committee with the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) wanted to add the song to their new hymnal, Glory to God, released this fall. But in doing so, the committee requested permission from the song’s writers, … [Read more...]

Accountability and Failure and More Accountability

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundMy early years of my childhood were filled with a lot of rules. My family started homeschooling in the early 90s when I was 6. My first two years homeschooling were really fun. We did a ton of field trips and park days, and I still had my trolls. Lord knows I loved my trolls. … [Read more...]

She’s a Witch!

by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog Whisper CollectorHis mother told him she had seen demons around me. I had heard of overprotective mothers, but this was ridiculous. What was worse is that this guy believed his mom. He offered to pray for me. Guys- a word of advice: It is a complete mood killer to tell your date that you are praying for her immortal soul. … [Read more...]

Sometimes Church is the Problem

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Victims and Abusers and Why Church is Not Safe

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons[trigger warning for abuse] If you follow me on twitter, you might have noticed that I watched My Fair Lady this past weekend, one of my favorite movies from when I was younger, but a movie I haven’t seen in years. And while I enjoyed the nostalgia and singing all the songs again, it was not an entirely pleasant experience and I probably won’t watch it again. Watching Professor Higgins, listening to him sing “Let a Woman in Your Life,” realizing that he never uses Eliza’s name and instead prefers to call her wretch, insect, and baggage, and understanding for the first time that Professor Higgins is an abuser . . . … [Read more...]

Teenage Brides and Titus 2 Women of the Homeschool Apostates

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyToday the big American Prospect “Homeschool Apostates” story came out. A number of us have been working with Kathryn Joyce for some time on the issue and so while I only had a short segment in it, an interview on social awkwardness as a formative experience, the piece is the most comprehensive one to exist on this advocacy work I am helping spearhead as of yet, and it really highlights the issues in a way that I find to be deeply meaningful and sincerely hope will help raise awareness and bring about improvement. … [Read more...]