Then Why Didn’t You Tell Us That, Mom?

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers Anonymous“I want you to know that I never actually believed everything in those Above Rubies magazines,” my mom told me when I was visiting home a while back.“Then why didn’t you tell us that, mom?” I asked. “I read every issue of that magazine cover to cover, and I always thought it was completely approved material.”I don’t know why my mother made that admission to me when she did. … [Read more...]

Escaping the Emotional Damage of Our Fundamentalist Christian Past

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMaybe.If a person is a relative newcomer to Christian Fundamentalism, and they decide to leave it for a non-Fundamentalist Christian religion, another religion, or atheism, I think it is likely quite easy to view their Fundamentalist past as nothing more than a blip in their life.  However, for those of us who were raised up in Christian Fundamentalism and spent years attending Fundamentalist churches, it is much harder for us to escape. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Proverbs 31 Woman Served Her Husband

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 114-116 Proverbs 31 defines the virtuous woman. She is NOT a mousy, voiceless prude. She is confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful. In this section, Debi examines Proverbs 31. For those who may not know, Proverbs 31 is a poem about a virtuous woman whose “price is far above rubies.” Evangelicals are quick to hold the Proverbs 31 woman up as a model for women to emulate. … [Read more...]

Dousing a Fire

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixBack when things just rolled right off me.Why do I often feel so sensitive, defensive and maligned against? Some days, it's like my body is a magnet that draws to itself and magnifies each hurt, each bit of slander, each little judgement I sense may be directed towards me. What some people can easily shrug off is like a crushing weight to me.I used to be able to shrug off implied insults or hurts more easily when I was young. They seemed to roll off me like water off a duck's back. I just didn't get insulted. Direct insults didn't hurt me, even when they were directed right at me. It's like I knew I was a winner, and … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Protector

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter is devoted to the second “masculine need”: “a man needs to function, feel needed, and excel women as a protector.” A man being a protector is probably one of the more foundational concepts about men in conservative religious environments– it is most especially true where patriarchy and complementarianism are fiercely held. It appears in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. … [Read more...]

The Evangelical Closet

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMost homes and apartments have closets. We use closets to store things, keep things out of sight, and to maintain order.  Metaphorically, a closet is a state or condition of secrecy, privacy, or obscurity.A few years back my family and I lived in Yuma, Arizona. We lived in a beautiful home, the largest home we have ever lived in. (twice the size our present house) The … [Read more...]

Sneaky Subconscious

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI've  been experiencing some shifts lately, and my eyes keep opening up to new breakthroughs. Some with my subconscious. It's completely exciting for me. Somewhat painful. I feel like things are ripping on the inside of me. In a good way. I feel somewhat more balanced now than I used to be. I'm getting used to the constant changes in my perspectives. I feel like I accept things more. … [Read more...]

When Other Daughters and Sons of Patriarchy Are Trapped

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWith all the ex-conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowdays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has viritually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends still trapped in the ideology that I constantly feel the tension with old friends and old hangouts.  Here’s just a few  very recent encounters I had with a few graduates … [Read more...]

Thank You, Dad

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixDad,Thank you for showing me who I am not.Age fiveYou beat me with a rod because I laughed when my baby brother shot peas out of his mouth and laughed. My baby brother wasn't obeying you when told to eat neatly, and you said he was old enough to have the devil beat out of him. You said the next one who laughed when my baby brother spit peas onto his high chair would get the rod. The next one was me. So you beat me with a wooden rod. … [Read more...]

Voices of Sister-Moms: Mary’s Story

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by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming Worldly(Editor's note: This is the final post in the Voices of Sister-Moms series. You can read more of Mary's story over at Homeschoolers Anonymous)So I’ve been reading the articles this last week about the sister-moms and they have been hitting home. I am one of those sister-moms. I am the 2nd oldest of eight and the oldest girl.  Most of the time I felt like the oldest because my older brother wasn’t in the picture much for various reasons.  But anyway, in the Quiverfull movement, there is a world of difference being a boy in the family versus a girl.  I don’t really feel like going into my story in this document, especially as … [Read more...]


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