Feeling Empathy for Christian Patriarchy Parents & Leaders

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI did a couple things I never expected to do yesterday. I had a thought-provoking conversation that left me thinking about how it is easy to decide that someone is an enemy, a jerk, a selfish person. It is easy to determine that people are unworthy, undeserving, maybe even unclean. It is easy for them to decide that about you too. … [Read more...]

Class, College, and Courtship: Why the next generation of Quiverfull will probably be poorer than their parents

by The Graduate I think that part of the reason that our family was never really considered true homeschoolers by some of our peers is because we had money.  My dad is a brilliant businessman, and his success certainly did drive a wedge between us and our peers, and we were always viewed as different.  It is true that we did the same things to save money that other homeschool families did, but we did them as our hobbies, not out of necessity.  We never struggled with making the mortgage or worried about our cars breaking down. … [Read more...]

Vision Forum Ministries Closing

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeToday it was announced on Vision Forum Ministries site that in light of the Doug Phillips scandal that the ministry would be locking the doors and shuttering the building. They are completely shutting down. Here's what they've posted on the Vision Forum Ministries site. … [Read more...]

Christian Cliches: “Lean Not on Your Own Understanding”

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsWhen I was part of Maranatha Campus Ministries back in the 1980s, "Lean not on your own understanding" was a cliche they were particularly fond of.  I remember when they were teaching us that Genesis 1:28, where God told the first male and female to "have dominion. . . over every living thing that moves on the earth," was a divine mandate meaning that today Christians are to "have dominion" in society and government, to "take over" for Jesus and make Christian principles and morality the "law of the land."  I remember shaking my head in puzzlement.  That passage doesn't say anything about human beings ruling over other human … [Read more...]

Phillips Social Circle Defend Him, Calling Those Who Disagree “Ungodly”

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundMy friend Heather at Becoming Worldy wrote a blog post that outlines “the path that Doug Phillips will try to take to ‘restoration’ and ‘forgiveness.’” She gives us 15 steps. 1.) Man gets caught with pants down2.) Man denies it or provides excuses and pretends like everything is fine3) Man is forced by elders/leaders/media/angry mob of former minions to fess up … [Read more...]

Is Clergy Sexual Infidelity Rare?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardDoug Phillips, of Vision Forum/Vision Forum Ministries, recently confessed that he had an inappropriate sexual relationship with a woman who is not his wife. (see my previous post in this) Defenders of Phillips have taken to their blogs, websites, Twitter, and Facebook, to do damage control on the behalf of Phillips and the patriarchal movement. One such defender is Voddie Baucham, the African-American version of Doug Phillips, sans the scandal. Baucham is an Independent Baptist pastor.  (you can find Baucham’s website here) … [Read more...]

“We All Sin:” A 15 Step Path to Forgiveness for Doug Phillips

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyThe Doug Phillips affair scandal has rocked and shocked the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy world the past few days, so I figured I’d address one angle that to my knowledge hasn’t been covered in depth yet: the path that Doug Phillips will try to take to “restoration” and “forgiveness.” It usually seems to take about 15 steps. But first, some background: … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Male Ego

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’m halfway tempted to have today’s post be nothing but a collection of choice quotes from this chapter, because they almost entirely speak for themselves. However, like most of what Helen’s says, it’s all grounded in (unfortunately) common stereotypes about gender, so they are worth discussing. The chapter is titled “Masculine Pride,” and I had a hard time identifying anything in it that I could agree with or tolerate. Beginning with this: … [Read more...]

Self Preservation and Mental Health

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

It’s Not the Affair That Irks Me, Mr. Phillips

 by Lana Hope cross posted from the blog Homeschoolers Anonymous and her blog Wide Open GroundDoug Philips, president of Vision Forum, and popular advocate of Christian Reconstructionism, Christian Patriarchy, and the Stay-at-Home-Daughter Movement, who has influenced 1000s of homeschool families to not use birth control or send their daughters to college and keep daughters at stay home until they marry, cites some kind of emotional affair as reason he is stepping down from Vision Forum. … [Read more...]