Vision Forum Inc. – The ‘For Profit’ VF is Closing!

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rape...And so things get a bit more grim for the Phillips.There's been no official word on the closing of the incorporated for profit side of Vision Forum closing after Doug Phillips stepped down after admitting his affair and the closing of the ministry side of Vision Forum, but it looks like that is indeed what is happening. … [Read more...]

John Piper’s Defense of the Genocidal Christian God

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardThere are many reasons people choose to leave Christianity. Contrary to what apologists for Christianity suggest, deconversion stories have many elements and are rarely the same. That said, there are four elements that show up in most deconversion stories:The existence of evil The existence of suffering God acting contrary to the commands he gives people God commanding people to act contrary to the commands he gives to people … [Read more...]

Seven Signs of Spiritual Abuse

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking Llama(Please welcome Boze to NLQ and the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! He's an awesome addition!)For about five years during and after college I was trapped in a dangerous Charismatic religious community. Living in a spiritually abusive environment is like a nightmare that you can’t wake out of. It can be hard to tell right from wrong, left from right. The people you trust the most could betray you at … [Read more...]

Happy Thanksgiving: Duties, Rights and Privileges

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeThe quotes and theology I stumble across as part of my posting and moderator duties at No Longer Quivering sometimes make me laugh, but many times I'm more likely to drop my full coffee cup in shock or dismay, just like the graphic of a spilled coffee cup I use for the Quoting Quiverfull feature. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

She Deserved My Undeterred Love

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionTrigger warning: Sexual contentThe day was sweltering hot in the two room studio apartment. The air conditioning, rusting in it's metal encasement, rattled and whined, trying to keep up with the radiant heat of the asphalt coming in the back window. The room smelled slightly, as it always did, of a small gas leak from the old, olive green, stove on the east wall. … [Read more...]

Fundamentalist Flashbacks

by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism(Editor's note: Welcome Jonny to NLQ and the SASBN! We're glad to have you here!)I recently woke up in the middle of the night, gripped by a sudden panic. What if I’m wrong?If I’m wrong, I’m going to hell.I’ve spent the last several years campaigning to raise public awareness of fundamentalist Christian schools that I consider abusive. I went to such a school myself, so I have a dog in this fight. If what they taught me is true, then I have spent these years fighting against God himself. … [Read more...]

Feeling Empathy for Christian Patriarchy Parents & Leaders

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI did a couple things I never expected to do yesterday. I had a thought-provoking conversation that left me thinking about how it is easy to decide that someone is an enemy, a jerk, a selfish person. It is easy to determine that people are unworthy, undeserving, maybe even unclean. It is easy for them to decide that about you too. … [Read more...]

Class, College, and Courtship: Why the next generation of Quiverfull will probably be poorer than their parents

by The Graduate I think that part of the reason that our family was never really considered true homeschoolers by some of our peers is because we had money.  My dad is a brilliant businessman, and his success certainly did drive a wedge between us and our peers, and we were always viewed as different.  It is true that we did the same things to save money that other homeschool families did, but we did them as our hobbies, not out of necessity.  We never struggled with making the mortgage or worried about our cars breaking down. … [Read more...]