You Can Fall in Lust But Not Love?

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeVaughn Ohlman's latest scripture limbo playing fast and loose involves braying that it's not possible to 'fall' in love. Why? Well, because falling is mentioned in the Bible as a negative or passive word according to the few scriptures he managed to pull up and glom together to support his point.Hey, join in that FUN game, grab some scriptures and claim they mean all sorts of things it's likely they … [Read more...]

Being a Nerd Has Its Benefits: An Ode to the Bullied

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection We were poor.  There were seven of us.  We lived with a single mother who refused to work, thinking it was religious anathema for a woman to do so.  So, we lived on about $16,000 a year in food stamps and cash assistance.  My mother may have struggled, but we never noticed.  The government helped, as well as everyone else that either took pity on us or fell in love with our family.Life was good.Then we got on the school bus.The clothing we wore was old.  The styles from a decade past, remembered by the olive greens, the oranges, the browns, the long hair on both men and women, the drugs.  The seventies were over a … [Read more...]

Pastor Rapes Away the Gay and Gets By With It

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNo commentary from me. The story from Addicting Info says it all: <A HREF="http://ws.amazon.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&MarketPlace=US&ID=V20070822%2FUS%2Ffamiliesthatflou%2F8010%2F3a66ffe9-ddd0-4d6b-8d9b-5eebb6c82db3&Operation=NoScript">Amazon.com Widgets</A>No commentary from me. The story from Addicting Info says it all: By now, we’ve all undoubtedly heard of and been outraged by a Montana judge sentencing a former teacher to a mere 30 days in prison for raping one of his female students. But have you heard of the Iowa youth pastor who is walking free after confessing to raping boys to “ … [Read more...]

Why Betrothal Isn’t ‘The Answer’

by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeLast week brought the news that Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait betrothed his son Joshua to a young lady up in Michigan named Laura Camp. I wish both of them well, they look like good well-scrubbed Fundie Christians. They're going to need all the luck and good wishes they can garner considering the explanation of betrothal Josh's dad gave in the wake of the announcement.Marriage isn't easy under the best of circumstances. It's a struggle sometimes to create a union where each is valued for who they are and both partners fit together in complimentary ways. Their type of betrothal sets up a pretty high potential for … [Read more...]

Damaged Goods

 by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeTrue Love Doesn't Wait author Von Ohlman has been taking on the writings of one Michael Pearl, author of "To Train Up A Child" and founder of No Greater Joy Ministry.You remember To "Train Up A Child" don't you? That child training book that has been blamed for the beating and starvation death of adoptive child Hana Grace Williams and the deaths of a few other children?  The trial of Hana's adoptive parents started last week. They'd been charged with murder, as they well should be. Michael Pearl and his cruel book also hold some culpability in my mind. But back to the subject. … [Read more...]

Escaping the Emotional Damage of Our Fundamentalist Christian Past

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMaybe.If a person is a relative newcomer to Christian Fundamentalism, and they decide to leave it for a non-Fundamentalist Christian religion, another religion, or atheism, I think it is likely quite easy to view their Fundamentalist past as nothing more than a blip in their life.  However, for those of us who were raised up in Christian Fundamentalism and spent years attending Fundamentalist churches, it is much harder for us to escape. … [Read more...]

Dousing a Fire

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixBack when things just rolled right off me.Why do I often feel so sensitive, defensive and maligned against? Some days, it's like my body is a magnet that draws to itself and magnifies each hurt, each bit of slander, each little judgement I sense may be directed towards me. What some people can easily shrug off is like a crushing weight to me.I used to be able to shrug off implied insults or hurts more easily when I was young. They seemed to roll off me like water off a duck's back. I just didn't get insulted. Direct insults didn't hurt me, even when they were directed right at me. It's like I knew I was a winner, and … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Protector

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter is devoted to the second “masculine need”: “a man needs to function, feel needed, and excel women as a protector.” A man being a protector is probably one of the more foundational concepts about men in conservative religious environments– it is most especially true where patriarchy and complementarianism are fiercely held. It appears in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. … [Read more...]

The Evangelical Closet

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMost homes and apartments have closets. We use closets to store things, keep things out of sight, and to maintain order.  Metaphorically, a closet is a state or condition of secrecy, privacy, or obscurity.A few years back my family and I lived in Yuma, Arizona. We lived in a beautiful home, the largest home we have ever lived in. (twice the size our present house) The … [Read more...]

Sneaky Subconscious

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI've  been experiencing some shifts lately, and my eyes keep opening up to new breakthroughs. Some with my subconscious. It's completely exciting for me. Somewhat painful. I feel like things are ripping on the inside of me. In a good way. I feel somewhat more balanced now than I used to be. I'm getting used to the constant changes in my perspectives. I feel like I accept things more. … [Read more...]


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