“Be a Man” – Christianity and Gender Mystiques

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsA "mystique" is defined by TheFreeDictionary.com as "An aura of heightened value, interest, or meaning surrounding something, arising from attitudes and beliefs that impute special power or mystery to it." A "gender mystique," therefore, is an idealized concept of what it means to be a man or a woman, such that rather than simply describing one's physical sex, there is a specialized/romanticized state of gender identity which a man or a woman should strive to attain in order to be a "real" man or woman. … [Read more...]

Slutty Girls…(Fill in Blank)

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOne of the big phrases I heard many times in my very Catholic family was "Slutty Girls...." with some description of whatever undesirable behavior that these imaginary threatening exemplar ladies were modeling.I heard that hoary old chestnut so many times that if I were to suddenly pick up a Marlboro, flick my Bic and actually inhale I'd hear my mother, my grandmother, my great grandmother and probably countless generations back exclaim in my mind - "Slutty girls smoke" - spoken in parts outraged and cautionary. … [Read more...]

When I Rejected Dominionism

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground and Homeschoolers AnonymousBy now most people have probably heard of the dominionism in homeschooling and conservative evangelical circles — the idea that homeschoolers will change the world by their involvement in absolutely everything, from science to the high arts to politics. Oddly even after I rejected patriarchalism (and courtship and purity), I still saw myself as a huge warrior and heroine. I’ll tell you what changed that for me. But first thought I’ll give you a couple quotes of this in homeschool circles. … [Read more...]

Eighty Four B (84B)

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesOn I-29 in South Dakota, exit 84B exits onto I-90 West toward Rapid City. I’ve learned this well. I go to Sioux Falls (what I like to call “going to town”) for work a lot, and when you drive the same route several times, you sort of start to pick up on these things. One time I went to Sioux Falls 3 times in a 7-day period. It was awesome!In this blog, 84B is sort of an exit from this (84) to other, somewhat related topics.This morning in church, my pastor was talking about Philippians 1:21- For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Rights of the Leader

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons Helen really takes the cake in this chapter. Which, if you notice, she pulled a bit of a bait-and-switch on us. In the last chapter, she described one of the masculine roles as the “guide,” but if you notice above, this chapter is called “The Leader.” Which, honestly, I wasn’t too thrilled with “guide,” either, but it’s certainly a sight better than Leader. This chapter is quite long, so I’m going to break it down into at least two posts, maybe as many as three. But, let’s get started. … [Read more...]

Eighty Four

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI’ve been reading a book called Angel Sister. The main family in the story consisted of a husband and wife who were children of men who wanted to control and micromanage them. Their fathers let them know what they were expected to do (beginning with not marrying each other), and when they — as adults — “defied” their fathers, their fathers told them that they were ungrateful and rebellious, and then they told everybody else the same thing. … [Read more...]

Lana Hope’s Story

Please join me in welcoming Lana Hope to our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network!by Lana Hope. She blogs at Wide Open Ground  I grew up in the Deep South. In our rural homeschool community homeschoolers were a scarcity, with miles between families, so homeschool came somewhat isolating, by default. Our first year of homeschooling was the best of my homeschool memories – at least in my foggy memory. Our math textbook included counting ducks. We went on loads of fieldtrips and had hands on learning. There was no legalism or spiritual abuse in our house. I even had a troll party for my 7th birthday. Trolls. … [Read more...]

The One That Got Away- Josh Powell and the Ones That Didn’t

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The Light.Author's note: I realize that there are successful home school experiences out there and yes, I know a number of them. The kids I'm speaking of today were all the kids in my art classes. None of them has gone on to any great success yet.It was with great interest I've been following the story of central Virginia's Josh Powell and his quest for a decent education in the face of Virginia's laws allowing homeschooling parents to teach as much and as little as they'd like. He is one very determined young man that took on the world of Virginia homeschooling to do what was right, have the same opportunity towards a well rounded … [Read more...]

Premarital Sex and the Purity “Litmus Test”

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlySo I read this blog post by Rachel Held Evans, everyone’s favorite progressive evangelical blogger. She is a beautiful writer, has fun posts, and I totally have to disagree with her wholeheartedly on something today. See, Rachel Held Evans just rejected purity culture and then tried to agree with purity culture at the same time when she wrote “Sex and The Path of Holiness.” … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: Gender Roles

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons TW for homophobia. Before I jump into this chapter, I want to make a clarification. I’ve been doing my best to make sure that when I talk about my marriage that I make it clear that what I’ve experienced and witnessed personally in my life is limited to my experience only, that I’m only making observations that I’m comfortable viewing as generally true about people. These statements are in line with my core values about marriage: that I am not married to a man, I am married to a person. He is a human being that is different and unique, and deserves to be treated with respect to his individuality instead of viewing of him in terms … [Read more...]


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