Iron Sharpeneth Iron: Part 2

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Growing up, I received some very specific messages about relationships and friendships. For many Christians, evangelicals in particular, who you choose for your friends is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. Aside from the idea that men and women are not allowed to be friends (which is so large a concept it’s almost a completely separate issue), we’re given a set of guidelines for how we initiate and structure all of our friendships. … [Read more...]

Iron Sharpeneth Iron, Part One

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons “I’m really worried about her.” I was laying in my bed, staring up at my ceiling, envisioning all the different situations one of my dearest friends could find herself in, now that she was living in the downtown of a big city, far away from people she knew and the community she’d grown up in. Handsome was on the phone, listening to my concerns. … [Read more...]

Josh Duggar: Speaking For “Gay” Family Members

by Suzanne CaluluRecently Josh Duggar gave a radio interview in which he claimed that his lesbian aunt is opposed to gay marriage. He took the place of  FRC's Tony Perkins on FRC's radio show last week. … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: Always Obey

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons Helen closes out her chapter on “The Leader” by reiterating many of her earlier points in stronger language, but she also takes the opportunity to preemptively combat what she thinks may be some common objections, or situations readers could describe that would make her teachings difficult– or impossible. To do this, she begins with a longer discussion of what she means when she tells women to obey their husbands: … [Read more...]

The Voices in My Head Are in My Bible Too

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This picture appears sometimes during the slide shows of my pastor’s sermons, along with several others– they’re all of people reading their Bibles, and the scenes they picture are calm, tranquil. Sometimes they’re curled up on their couch with a cup of coffee, sometimes they’re relaxing by a riverbank, just letting the words soak in– but all of the time there’s a gentle, beaming smile on their faces. … [Read more...]

Baptist ‘Boot Camps’ in Need of Watchful Eyes

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Baptist Taliban and Beyond(Editor's note: This was originally published on Baptist Taliban and Beyond on September 14, 2011 but the issue remains a crucial one in recovery as long as places like these and Hephzibah House remain open. The physical and emotional damage to children continues as long as these places exist.) … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: Perfect Follower

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons When I first started this series, I mentioned how Helen had the unpleasant habit of appearing to be quite supportive. In many places, she tells women that they need to be bold, strong– she even uses the word assertive at times. However, I also mentioned how whenever she says something that seems forward thinking, she always undoes it in the surrounding texts. In this way, she’s a bit like Lucy and the football. She tells you that it is perfectly alright to expect your husband to listen to you, or to not be abused, but then she does complete about-face in everything else she says. … [Read more...]

The Upside of the Downside of My Homeschooling

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground I. Growing up, I had very little concept of “school” in the traditional sense.While we were not unschoolers or a family who did child-directed learning, we did not even try to bring school home. We were our own breed. In my elementary years we just did the ATI wisdom booklets, checked out tons of random books at the library, and did unit studies that centered on the scripture of the month. For example, if our verse that month was “blessed are the meek,” we studied stories of meekness in history, science, missions, and life. We did not even open up textbooks, other than in math and grammar, until I got older. … [Read more...]

“Be a Man” – Christianity and Gender Mystiques

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsA "mystique" is defined by TheFreeDictionary.com as "An aura of heightened value, interest, or meaning surrounding something, arising from attitudes and beliefs that impute special power or mystery to it." A "gender mystique," therefore, is an idealized concept of what it means to be a man or a woman, such that rather than simply describing one's physical sex, there is a specialized/romanticized state of gender identity which a man or a woman should strive to attain in order to be a "real" man or woman. … [Read more...]

Slutty Girls…(Fill in Blank)

by Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightOne of the big phrases I heard many times in my very Catholic family was "Slutty Girls...." with some description of whatever undesirable behavior that these imaginary threatening exemplar ladies were modeling.I heard that hoary old chestnut so many times that if I were to suddenly pick up a Marlboro, flick my Bic and actually inhale I'd hear my mother, my grandmother, my great grandmother and probably countless generations back exclaim in my mind - "Slutty girls smoke" - spoken in parts outraged and cautionary. … [Read more...]