Emotional Control: Mandatory Happiness Makes Me Sad

December 13, 2012 By 8 Comments
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by Sierra I recently joined Pinterest. I resisted for a little while, like I always do, but eventually decided that it would be a convenient way to store ideas for home decorating (I just moved house) and wedding planning (for next fall). The result was my sudden

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Quoting Quiverfull: Woman the Greatest Servant in History?

December 13, 2012 By 6 Comments

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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“In the Name of the Lord” – German TV on Quiverfull

December 12, 2012 By 4 Comments

A kind reader sent in this link to a piece that aired on German television explaining what Quiverfull actually is. It is in German but you can clearly hear what the family is saying in English.

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Jack Schaap: The Mess at First Baptist Church in Chicago Magazine

December 10, 2012 By 15 Comments
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by Calulu The most popular post here at NLQ isn’t necessarily a Quiverfull story but one that examines how the Independent Baptist Churches and pastors seem to have a problem with a high percentage of their leadership straying into sexual abuse of women and children. It named two known IFB pastors that ended up

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Quoting Quiverfull: “Despots”?

December 9, 2012 By 5 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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