Christian Advice For Brides in Training?

February 18, 2013 By 26 Comments
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by Calulu Lately I’ve been running into a number of Funda-Gelical blogs dedicated to either training brides what to do once they marry or advising them on what a proper Christian lady does to prepare for her future marriage. Some of the advice is

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Happy is the Man That Has His Quiver Full of Them

February 18, 2013 By 17 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser When Polly and I married in 1978, we planned to have three children.  We wanted to wait a year or so before we started having children, but six-weeks into marriage Polly became pregnant. Our son Jason was seven weeks before our first wedding anniversary. In 1981, Nathan

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Civility Pledge: Creating a Safe Environment for Constructive and Healing Conversation

February 17, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison When it comes to a discussion of the inherently pernicious elements of the Quiverfull ideal, such as patriarchy, fundamentalism, bible “literalism,” Dominionism, etc., which result in the spiritual abuse of Christian women and their families, it is too easy to be sarcastic, condescending, harsh,

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The Burqa Experience: Into The Countryside

February 17, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Calulu Madison, Virginia  – January 18, 2013 Have to admit, I was more than just a little bit nervous going into Madison wearing hijab. This is a town way out in the country, where keeping track of your neighbors business wasn’t a hobby, it was a profession. Just being from out

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Should Christians Use Birth Control? A Guest Post

February 16, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Ian – Guest writer from Bruce Gerencser’s blog  The Way Forward I am writing this in response to thoughts put out by Pastor Steven Anderson. Guys like this are sick in the head and very dangerous. Given the right opportunity, he would call his followers to take up

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