Modesty, Body Policing and Empowerment: The Hijab (Part One)

January 1, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Sierra The Guardian recently published an article by Nadiya Takolia titled “The hijab has liberated me from society’s expectations of women.” It’s far from the first of its kind; indeed, the Muslim feminist blogosphere is really

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Cultural Impact: Adventures in Recovery

December 30, 2012 By 3 Comments
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by Calulu While I’ve been away from home this last week one of the things I did with extended family was attend the local theater. The featured show was a live production of the Andrew Lloyd Webber musical “Cats” We watched for the

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Christianity and Christian Patriarchy are not the same thing

December 26, 2012 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra A moment of clarification: If you read my previous post and thought I was issuing a call to arms against the Christian religion, please be aware of this distinction. The Christian Patriarchy movement is a

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A Sea Change Christmas

December 25, 2012 By 9 Comments
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by Calulu Merry Christmas from NLQ! For many of us here our traditions and doings around the holidays have changed since we’re left behind all that is quiverfull or whatever brand of fundamentalism you were enmeshed with. Sometimes you must tweak

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Revisiting NLQ FAQ: The Bible and Birth Control

December 23, 2012 By 9 Comments

Note:  Before reading this, please read the “Quiverfull and the Bible” FAQ.  Like the “nobleminded Bereans” (Acts 17:11), we are entitled to study for ourselves, so that we may read the Biblical text in an informed manner.  That FAQ provides the background for the method of informed

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