Indentifying Spiritual Abuse: The Pastor Litmus Test – The Newtown CT Shooting

December 16, 2012 By 6 Comments
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Sometimes identifying spiritual abuse isn’t an easy task, particularly if it is coming directly from the pulpit. Today as you listen to various pastors and teachers speaking about Friday’s tragic murder of those twenty school children ponder on the way they talk

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Saturday Shock & Sadness: December 15, 2012

December 15, 2012 By 4 Comments
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As you know we usually post a list of news links having to do with fundamentalism, quiverfull, or patriarchal subjects on Saturdays. Not today though. While the events of the school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut unfolded many of us could not look away from the media

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Characters

December 14, 2012 By 2 Comments
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by Mari Donald Miller, in “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years” says that when you write a story, even though you hold the pen, the character does what it wants. It’s true. I once wrote a story for a fiction workshop about

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Emotional Control: Mandatory Happiness Makes Me Sad

December 13, 2012 By 8 Comments
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by Sierra I recently joined Pinterest. I resisted for a little while, like I always do, but eventually decided that it would be a convenient way to store ideas for home decorating (I just moved house) and wedding planning (for next fall). The result was my sudden

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Jack Schaap: The Mess at First Baptist Church in Chicago Magazine

December 10, 2012 By 15 Comments
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by Calulu The most popular post here at NLQ isn’t necessarily a Quiverfull story but one that examines how the Independent Baptist Churches and pastors seem to have a problem with a high percentage of their leadership straying into sexual abuse of women and children. It named two known IFB pastors that ended up

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