Resources For Recovery From Spiritual Abuse

January 7, 2013 By 4 Comments
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Many of the emails we get here at No Longer Quivering involve asking for help, either asking for help dealing with the fall out of leaving an abusive cult-like situation or asking for advice or help to get someone else out. Because of the flood of emails coming in asking for help

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“Taking Her Myself” A New Trend in Quiverfull Courtship/Betrothal

January 6, 2013 By 37 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison (originally posted at Politicus USA Sept. 9, 2011) “Does God Hate Women?“ author, Ophelia Benson recently shared a note which was posted on Reddit written by a young patriarch describing his “biblical marriage.”  As Bible-believing Baptists who hold to reformed theology,

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Jack Schaap Asked For Reduced Sentence – The Devil Made Him Do It

January 5, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Calulu Apparently IFB pastor Jack Schaap is asking that he receive a special reduced sentence below the federally mandated minimum of ten years. Why? Because he’s claiming that the stress of running his mega-church First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana combined with falling financial resources  put him in a

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We thought modesty made us timeless

January 4, 2013 By 21 Comments

by Sierra I grew up wearing “holiness.” I’ll wait for a moment so you can finish making jokes. You know you want to. Holiness hair in action. Usually associated with Pentecostals, “holiness” dress has several elements:

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Raised Quiverfull: A Gendered Childhood Part 2

January 2, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — A Gendered Childhood Question 3: In what ways were boys and girls in your family expected to dress or act differently from each other? Were there certain things it was appropriate for girls to do but not boys, and vice versa? Joe: Not really.  If we were

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