To Stand Up and Speak: The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blog Network

by Melissa Permission to LiveMy sister was the one who introduced me to No Longer Quivering. She didn’t actually mean to, she told me she was reading a website called Quivering Daughters, and when I googled it I found No Longer Quivering instead. I wanted to make sure that this was a good thing for a Christian to read, and so I looked around for what the conservative Christian community was saying about the website, and read that the founder of the site was a raving atheist and a lesbian. Of course neither claim was true, I believe at that point Vyckie Garrison was only questioning her faith, and even though she now considers herself an atheist, I have never experienced to her to b … [Read more...]

Hot Pink A & ‘Good’ Christian Disapproval – SASBN

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by CaluluI've been putting off doing my introductory piece for No Longer Quivering's Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network because I was stuck in writers block land. That fun place were you can't put a finger to the keyboard and come up with any that makes any sense at all on certain subjects.  Besides, my blog is more boring day to day with a dash of gluten free recipes posted and the odd commentary on something from my old church life. I'm not intellectually dissecting harmful spiritual beliefs. I leave that to those more intelligent and less ADD than myself. So I never felt like I could contribute as much as the others to the SASBN.I do talk frequently about my friend Josie's … [Read more...]

Pornography and the Fundy

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by Calulu(Warning, possibly triggering and some of the links are of the not safe for work variety.)Recently I started thinking about pornography. Not that I was partaking it in, it's never done anything for me. I might as well be looking at a pile of rutabagas or dirty socks. It is what it is, but it never did much to make me experience sexual feelings of excitement. But then again, I did grow up in New Orleans, with its capacious amounts of ever present sex shops, hookers, strip clubs and just general debauchery. I was jaded about such things by the age of eighteen and have never viewed them as erotic in any way.Plus I understand the Feminist views on pornography objectifying … [Read more...]

Baptist Taliban: Part 3

by Cindy FosterTHE CHURCH WE WEREThe Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more.The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member of a church that was not nearly as rigid in its standards as the college was, so in the beginning of his ministry as pastor, he did not have the extreme beliefs that he eventually embraced later in his ministry.It was several years after the church had started and was established with its own building that the more relaxed climate began … [Read more...]

Submission and Prison Cells: Part 2

by Melissa Permission to Live Click here for Part OneLet me start by saying a sincere “I am sorry” to “Yellowbunnys” (whoever she was, and wherever she is now) and to all the other women I shamed that day. I was wrong. I was arrogant. I was hurtful.It is painful for me to even read what I believed then, much less how I judged others and tried to force them to believe it too.At the time I wrote that, I was barely getting past Post-Partum Depression with my first baby, and was about to be hit with a second wave of it after the birth of my second. I struggled to fulfill my self-imposed idea of perfection, but believed that any and all of the seeming problems with the submissi … [Read more...]

Baptist Taliban Part 2

by Cindy Foster FAMILY AS NEIGHBORSAt first we lived in duplexes right next door to each other.  Then, both families jointly purchased five acres, divided them equally and each built a house on their two and a half acres.As more children came, naturally there would be conflicts between theirs and ours which produced conflicts between us, their parents.  This was particularly difficult for me because whenever arguments erupted between them (for instance) over toys or other belongings as to what belonged to whom, my sister-in-law would automatically assume the role as head arbitrator.  She was ‘The Pastor’s Wife‘ which gave her a kind of ‘authority’ to be the decision-mak … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network: The Fine Print …

The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network is open to all bloggers who are survivors of spiritual abuse regardless of what faith tradition they come from or where they are at now spirituality-wise.Part of the success of the SASBN is our willingness to cooperatively work together and cross-promote the blogs and blog posts of other network participants. Individual members are encouraged to post links to the SASBN member blogs on the sidebar of their blogs and link to, crosspost, or discuss SASBN articles as a source of blogging material and discussion topics.It is not required, however, to link to every blog in the network. We are aware that the diversity of the Spiritual Abuse … [Read more...]

SASBN Blogging Tips: Should I use my real name, or blog anonymously, when writing about spiritual abuse?

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by Vyckie GarrisonThis is the first question every spiritual abuse survivor should consider before writing about your personal story online.Most of us go back and forth, weighing the benefits and potential risks, before making the decision either to use our real names or write anonymously. Here's a list of considerations which will help you determine the best choice for you:Real Name Pros:Greatly increases the credibility of your story.No worries about being "outed."You will be able to do TV interviews, YouTube videos, accept speaking invitations, etc.Much less confusing!No need for an additional "anonymous" email address or Facebook page.Allows you to … [Read more...]

Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

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by Melissa Permission To LiveAlmost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got married, and I still dutifully tried to keep the house immaculate and dinner on the table by the time he walked in the door. I read lots of books on marriage and childrearing, and I gave some of them away too. I remember in particular giving away copies of “To Train up a Child” and “Be Fruitful and Multiply”. I did my best to live up to the ideas I found in the Bible, the Christian books and magazines I read, an … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network New Member: Cindy – Baptist Taliban and Beyond

The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network welcomes new member, Cindy Foster, who blogs at Baptist Taliban and Beyond.By way of introduction, Cindy writes: I was born and raised in Houston, Texas. My family were members of a wonderful Baptist church that started a Christian school in my Junior year of high school.  I graduated from there then enrolled in Baptist Bible College in Springfield, MO. where  I studied a little but played a lot.I met my husband, Paul who liked to play more than I did. He was adopted as an infant by veteran missionaries to Seoul, Korea, Ike and Jane Foster.  They served there from 1953 until their deaths, mother- 2006 and father- 2010 for a total of 57 ye … [Read more...]


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