Part 5: Abuse Survey

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalPart 5 - Abuse SurveyLate last year, I answered an online survey about spiritual abuse. I would like to share some of those questions and answers here, hoping it will give you a better picture of where I am up to in my journey. … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Immediate Obedience or Death

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismTo Train Up A Child, pp. 3—4 “WHOA, HORSE”We live in a horse and buggy community where someone is always training a new horse. When you get into a buggy to go down a narrow, winding state highway filled with eighteen-wheelers and logging trucks, you must have a totally submissive horse. You cannot depend on whipping it into submission. One mistake, and the young men are again making several new pine boxes and digging six-foot deep holes in the orchard. … [Read more...]

Teaching Our Kids Religion

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundIn a post the other day, I mentioned that homeschoolers tend to be sheltered from secular ideas – to the extent that homeschool students are often not allowed to disagree with their parents or formulate their own opinions. The post lacked clarity in several areas. I am a graduate student and have been writing extensive term papers this month. So I rushed the post. Quite frankly, if I turned in a paper as undeveloped and unclear as that post, I’d get a bad grade. … [Read more...]

Cersei Lannister, Rape Culture, and a Lot of Me Flipping the Bird in General

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger Warning: Sexual violence I’ve read G. R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire up through Feast of Crows, and I’m currently reading Dance of Dragons, albeit slowly. The books are a struggle for me to read, as an abuse and rape survivor. I do enjoy them, although I caution people to engage with Martin’s world critically. He’s been hailed by a lot of people as a “feminist” writer, but I am extremely hesitant to think of him in those terms (read Sady Doyle’s piece there– it’s both hysterically funny and insightful). … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]

Christian Women: Feminism IS Your Friend, Actually

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I usually do whatever I can to avoid reading anything Matt Walsh says, because reasons. He’s the blog version of Rush Limbaugh and an un-educated John Piper rolled into one Godzilla-sized disaster. Seeing someone in any of my social media feeds link to him has been enough to cause this reaction: … [Read more...]

Duggars and Courtship

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundA lot of people have pointed out how many Christian groups and churches are anti-gay. Even though these Christians love to say that they love the sinner and hate the sin, it does not remove the pain that a gay person has to face. If a gay teen comes out gay, the church will still pray for him and believe he needs to change. Sure the church claims to love the teen, but he’s still told he is sinning, and there is still that voice that something is wrong with him, and that he needs to change. … [Read more...]

Cults, Christianity, Toxic Beliefs and Health

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI recently separated from a religious cult that I grew up in. During the time I was questioning the beliefs of this cult, I realized that many of these beliefs unfortunately are also foundational beliefs in modern day evangelical Christianity as well. So I ended up leaving not only the cult, but Christianity also. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling and Consent

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon an excellent example of what I was talking about when I wrote my “The Tale of Two Boxes” post several years ago. Homeschool leader Chris Jeub had this to say in a recent blog post titled “Patriarchy Has Got To Go“: In a nutshell, Phillips is being sued by his former nanny, someone he knew for over a decade and was very close to the Phillips family. Her lawyers have graphic details of Phillips forcing himself sexually, and Phillips’ lawyers are denying little of it, claiming “consensual” contact between adults.For those of us in the Christian homeschool community, this is just as bad as guilty. Phillips i … [Read more...]


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