Have You Read the NLQ FAQs?

by VyckieFor the past couple of weeks, I have been going through each and every post at No Longer Quivering - editing categories, tags, graphics, meta, etc., in preparation for updating this website's layout and theme.Yes - it's a lot of tedious work, but it will be worth the trouble when NLQ's navigation is greatly improved.  All of the NLQ Story posts which I have finished editing are listed on this page.  The latest batch of related posts that I have been going through is the NLQ Frequently Asked Questions.  As I've been re-reading and editing, I'm thinking, "Hey, this is actually some pretty good stuff!"So I thought I'd draw new readers' attention to this valuable resource of Qu … [Read more...]

Let The Men Speak: "Quiverfull nearly destroyed our marriage"

"Quiverfull creates two kinds of men: those who control and those who become controlled ..."by BradI was thinking about the things that almost destroyed me and Dawn's relationship. This wasn't the only issue but it was a big one. I'll just let my mind put the words together and not try to make it pretty or anything.When Dawn was first convinced to go to a Quiverfull / homeschool mentality, I was not. I had issues with the movement and even that group of friends. They talked about being submitted to their husbands but I never saw it. If their husbands didn't follow the writings of the prophets of the movement, then their husbands were looked down on. We would be told about … [Read more...]

Vyckie’s Story ~ Part 20: Though He slay me … again

Could it be twins?!! Ugh ~ yes, this is me near full term with my fourth pregnancy. I gained 75 lbs. and had a bigger belly than septuplet mom, Bobbi McCoughey.Warren's vasectomy reversal surgery was successful ~ which meant that, at age 29 ~ I had the potential for many more babies in my future. I was a bit nervous about the pregnancies and deliveries ~ but not overly so since the only reason we'd taken this step was that we felt very strongly that the Lord was leading us to commit our reproductive lives to Him ~ and I felt confident that He would take care of everything as I leaned upon Him for strength and wisdom.Although I'd already had three c-section deliveries, I was hoping … [Read more...]

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! —Laura

By LauraToday is a special day for me. It marks the one year anniversary of the final time I left Dale. I had tried to leave 3 or 4 times before but , like many women in unhealthy relationships, I kept coming back. I have heard it said that a woman in an abusive relationship will leave the abuser an average of 7 times before she will actually stay away. 7 times! Wow. It didn't take me that many tries but it did take a few!Vyckie offered me a place to live, support and love and understanding. No strings attached, no time table, no rent required. Just a place to clear my head and figure out my life.I remember that it was April 14th, 2008, because it was the day before my birthday. … [Read more...]

Vyckie's Story: I Am Not Trapped!

Okay ~ I'm finished posting the part of my story which I wrote for my uncle ~ and before I start writing "the rest of the story" ~ I want to share part of the last letter that I wrote to Ron. (Warning: my letters to Uncle Ron were always way too long!) After nearly a year-long correspondence in which we wrote almost 1,000 letters back and forth, my uncle and I managed to cause some serious upset with the relatives. It's quite a remarkable story filled with a whirlwind of intensity, obsession and drama ~ and in the end, Ron decided it would be best to end our letter writing ~ I haven't heard from my uncle in almost two years. I miss him.Although I understand and respect Ron's reasoning, his … [Read more...]

Patriarchy IS in the Bible … I think it's even in the Godhead which is part of the reason I've tossed Him out of my life ;-)

Okay ~ I've noticed that over on my "We've been thinking" post about the Birth Control/Abortion Connection ~ you all are already posting comments about just how "Biblical" the whole patriarchy/women's submission/male headship-thing is ...Since I'm such an organized person, I'd really like to have that discussion under a separate post. Only I don't have time this morning to write my thoughts down on the subject. So ~ I've put the summary of my thoughts in the subject title ~ and I'll be back after a while to write the rest of it.For now ~ don't wait on me ... go ahead and bring your thoughts and comments over here to this post. I'd love to hear from you ~ I truly appreciate the respectful … [Read more...]

A Great Big "THANK YOU!!!!"

by VyckieI've been reading through the comments which have been posted on this blog ~ and feeling pretty overwhelmed by the kindness, support and thoughtfulness of our readers. I sure wish there was more time to respond ~ much of the dialog going on between posters is incredibly insightful. Nearly every comment makes me think, "Oh ~ I want to write about that too!" ~ and I am keeping a list of topics that I hope to address in the future.I honestly had no idea that there were so many others who were totally steeped in this lifestyle and then left the movement. It's really encouraging to me ~ makes me hopeful that what we're doing here could help other women either escape their own … [Read more...]


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