Why I Haven’t “Given Up On The Church”

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by Living Liminal from her blog Living LiminalThis morning, I read an article entitled Why You Shouldn’t Give up on the Church.The author is the son of a 'famous' christian. I am a 'nobody' in that particular world.He thinks "church is messy by nature." I have found it not messy, but dangerous.He says, "it’s where Jesus’ people are connected." I find I can connect with Jesus's people wherever I meet them.He opines that, "To leave the Church is to hurt yourself and to hurt others." I left because it was the only way to stop the hurt.His judgement: "leaving the Church... is escapism." My experience: leaving the institution was the only way to escape the abuse. … [Read more...]

News: World Magazine Answers Critics & Disseminates Absolutely Nothing

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerToday World Magazine posted about the internet wide discussions involving their article on homeschooling and child abuse - Homeschool Debate: How To Keep A Few Bad Apples From Spoiling The Bushel. You remember this article, right? This is the same piece that took something our SASBN member Heather Doney said out of context to change the meaning somewhat and also the article where HSLDA was allowed to get away with claiming only a few were homeschooling to hide child abuse and those few were 'fake homeschoolers'The article was the usual white-washed denial of a problem that typically seems to occur in Christian Fundamentalist Evangelical circles. Circle the … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201—202We’re in Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” and not surprisingly, we’re discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script—though not in good ways.A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godlines … [Read more...]

When Love Isn’t Enough: The Musser Family Tragedy Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideSixteen years ago, a baby was born in Bulgaria. At four months old, he was placed in an orphanage.   The orphanage young Tommy was placed at was hell on Earth.  The director "modified" the foods fed to the children to prevent them from growing normally.  By doing this, the director kept the children permanently in the youngest/weakest group of the orphanage where the orphanage received the most funds for the children.  Tommy was listed at age 15 as "Male child at 15 years of age, with the following diagnoses: Infantile Cerebral Palsy – Hypotonic form; Severe lagging behind in the physical and neuro-psychical development; Severe p … [Read more...]

Lourdes, Lifeboats and Bounded Choice: The Complicated Progress of Exiting Totalist Groups: Part 2

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Spiritual Sounding BoardRead Part 1 first...***Cindy Kunsman explains how Doug Phillips relegated Vision Forum acolytes to bounded choice – a dynamic only intensified for Lourdes Torres-Manteufel by alleged sex abuse.***Note from Julie Anne:  This is Part 2 of Cindy Kunsman’s series on Bounded Choice.  In this series she is helping us to understand the process people go through when they have lived in a high-controlling religious system as was Lourdes Torres-Manteufel’s experience.  Lourdes’ and Cindy’s story can help shed light in our own experience or the experience of someone we know and love.  Having this understanding is pivotal in t … [Read more...]

Child Sexual Molestation and Evangelical Christianity’s Completely F’ed Up Response

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 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI was saddened but not surprised to hear this morning that actress-singer Vanessa L. Williams (my favorite on the show "Ugly Betty") had been sexually molested at ten years old. She came out and told the story on "Oprah's Master Class"Vanessa explained how her experience had played out in the rest of her life, her early sexual experiences, bad choices in relationships, the guilt and shame, the bout of promiscuity. … [Read more...]

Separated at Birth Part 2

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The ladies over at Free Jinger pointed this one out. Scott Brown and Liberace.Scott Brown - The man poised to take over and wear Doug Phillips crown in the Evangelical world and flamboyant pianist Liberace … [Read more...]

From Thrift Shops to Trendy Boutiques: Jill Duggar’s Wedding Dress Search

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer or "How The Duggars Have Changed Very Dramatically Since Fame"Remember all those times when the Duggars said 'why pay retail when you can buy used and save the difference' and poor Anna sewing her wedding dress and all the dresses of the attendants for her wedding and all the tales of fashionable thrift shop finds that the girls always clothe themselves in? It seems that has now been abandoned. Apparently saving money is much less high a priority. … [Read more...]

The Female Body, a Source of Contamination

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon a blog post titled “How the Modesty Police Are Hurting My Son,” in which blogger Ami writes about trying to teach her son that he is responsible for his own actions even as those around her tell him that girls are responsible for covering up so as to “protect” him. As I looked through the mostly positive comments on her post, I was struck by this one: I think it’s great that you teach your child all these things—and I think it’s great that parents teach their children modesty. And sometimes it is to protect boys—they can’t un-see a girl’s body once it’s been seen barely clad. Many parents teach their childre … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse & Submission – Modesty & Lust: Part 1

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo“…A large majority of women may very well stand before God one day with a sea of men around her whom she caused to stumble by modeling her body in a sexy form in front of them….” Stephanus BlignautRemember the very first episode of WKRP in Cincinnati? Dr. Johnny Fever had just been hired, after wondering up and down the dial.  He had lost his big LA DJ job after saying the forbidden word: booger!  Well, that’s how I feel with this post. … [Read more...]


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